Looking to date someone single and monogamous, DDF/non-smoker of any substances who also shares the intention of building a relationship balanced with emotional and physical intimacy.

Please note that I am looking to date in the direction of a committed relationship and my preference here is within the context of that. I am not into any kind of ENM.

Lifestyle-wise, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends are spent at the park/getting fresh air and/or gym, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel-wise, I go for stay-cations with the occasional, month-long, annual or bi-annual vacation elsewhere. Would love to have a cat or dog one day. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to cultivate emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we navigate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen. I'd like to share compatible affection that fulfill each other and appreciation for each other's efforts.

Mutual emotional and physical intimacy are what I require in building and growing a relationship. The ongoing amount of care and consideration from both sides determines the sustainability of the relationship. It’s incredibly important to me that I feel comfortable enough with my partner and vice versa because that is how trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability happens. A connection where each partner is willing to try expressing and receiving emotions from the other from an aligned place is foundational for a relationship.

I'd like to connect with a partner who is thoughtful, emotionally flexible and understands that safety and comfort is paramount. I prefer to get to know people virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect more on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else. I move slow when getting to know people and and a sense of how we show up for each other. This means that we take it interaction by interaction on whether we're open to meeting again with the idea of building a relationship.

My favorite weekends would be lazy Sundays cuddling, bonding and feeling the comfort of my partner's body against mine. Equally important is that we both are willing to practice tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate. We are both clear on what we want to try incorporating and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Quality time and physical touch are how I like to receive love seeking similar for emotionally sustainable and physically compatible relationship. My preferences lean towards someone who shares similar values relationally and is open-minded and self-aware. Someone who enjoys silly moods and long, thoughtful conversations with in the quiet nights. Someone who respects me as an equal and who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be around comfortably.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, DDF willing to be fully tested before any physical intimacy, non-smoker of any substances
• Shares compatible and clear intentions around a relationship, values and conduct
• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them
• Congruent energy in communicating and connecting
• Balances considerate curiosity, playfulness and thoughtfulness
• Between the ages of 26-40
• Slim to lean body type
• Understands and respects appropriate discretion and confidentiality especially in early stages - SFW photos only
• Also gainfully employed as am I
• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality time together 2-3 times a week consistently. I mainly build emotional and physical connection through in-person time.
• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs with respectful authenticity
• Understands that consent can be withdrawn at any time by either party for any reason and must be informed at all times
• Practices personal responsibility, consideration for their partner's boundaries and self-awareness of their emotional state and growth areas

Other preferences: Clean-shaven or relatively short and tidy beard.

Only responding to those who respect my intention by fully including the below in their first message, which I do my best to reciprocate:

1. some basic general details about yourself like what I've mentioned above for myself, including your age, relationship status, understanding of consent; and concise references to my non-negotiables

2. What you’re working on as it relates to a relationship, what your needs are for your own sense of engagement in building one, and what kind of effort you’re willing to put into meeting the needs I’ve expressed here.

Thoughtful and relevant intros welcome. I'd appreciate a SFW face and full body photo within a week, preferably, or up to two weeks after which we decide if we want to do a virtual call to meet up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but intention, values and conduct determine the rest.