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33 M4F - Seeking intense and deep connection and the casual chat that leads to it
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DirMar33 is a male looking for a female
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Hello, and welcome!

I'm very interested in meeting like-minded folk who believe they have some similarities with me and that we may click. Specifically, I'm seeking a cisgender woman that's 18 or older from any country and background (who that woman is matters more to me than details of this sort). I'm 33 and male myself, living in the Eastern US. I adore thorough and passionate interactions with a meaningful basis. I dislike trivialities and meaningless expectations. I want to feel and create a deep bond that's built little by little with every conversation and action. In this way, I'm open to any possible type of relationship with the people I meet here, from acquaintances, to friends, to penpals, to a life partner. My ultimate goal is to bond with those I jive with regardless of where we end up. I'd especially like something more intimate, so an LDR or more than friendly situation would be ideal. However, I'm plenty open to conversation partners and less romantic situations if one or more details between us don't quite work out. We'll need to feel out what works best for us and where we want to take things.

I've also always been the type to want to meet new and interesting people. Lacking similarities has actually opened me and those I met to things we would have never considered before. Some common interests and especially character traits are vital, but completely relating and having everything in common isn't as important as you would think. Knowing what traits matter most comes out in chat and interaction, not a checklist of things to conform to. I've been surprised by who I was able to bond and share with, so I'm open to a lot. I hope you are as well.

I want to make it clear that if whomever is reading this feels like we may have a connection or ability to bond together they should message me. No hesitations or doubts, please. I don't believe in losing potential and being self-defeated before anything even occurred. I've not uncommonly been told I'm patient, kind, and easy to talk to, which I hope is just as true for those I come across here. Should you like or need it, please allow me to soothe your nerves instead of allowing us to suffer from any misunderstandings or difficulties.

More about me and what I'm seeking:

  • I like long, intimate, deep, and personal discussion. By this, I mean not being restricted by trivialities and actually being ourselves. I'm not someone who likes casual chat about things that don't matter to either of us. Be genuine and authentic. It can take time to feel comfortable and be seen in a raw form, but doing so is an ultimate goal.
  • I adore vulnerable people with complexity and seeing who someone really is. Having a content space to fully let loose is an ideal. I'm openly accepting of sensitive and traumatized people and see their mental state and experiences as having a great deal to offer despite the difficulties.
  • I value creativity and like artistic types. I express this myself through writing and more literary arts. In particular, I write intellectually, about general observations and thoughts, and poetically - mostly to other people in the form of conversation partners (I'm very much a conversational thinker and writer and can go on for a long, long time about a plethora of topics with the right person). I appreciate and admire all sorts of expression, even if it's a type I'm not personally involved in.
  • I'm INTJ and Type 5, since some people seem to like knowing. I like taking different types of tests to understand myself and others better. A lot of them seem petty bunk to me, including MBTI and Enneagram, but it can be a fun activity to share with someone, whether talking about it or taking tests together and then discussing the results and test itself.
  • Due to my personality and desires, I could be considered part of the ace/aro spectrum. I am demisexual and demiromantic IRL. I am more prone to graysexuality online due to it not requiring actual physical touch (I'm open to what happens - depends on the person and how well we get along). I tend to get along very well with asexuals despite having active sexual desires myself (although friendship may be better depending on your own views and needs).

More about my values, passions, and interests:

  • I like to research and learn new things. I don't like to constrain myself and am interesting in seeing various topics in intricate and new ways. I'm, by choice, an autodidact and prefer this sort of person as well, or at least those who can appreciate liberated knowledge acquisition and comprehension. I believe there's always more to know, and more ways to know those things - humanity can only comprehend so much, and less than we think we can.
  • I believe in eternity - in both directions. This means I have a primary focus on the future, a significant focus on the past, and acknowledge the present moment as a form of transience between the two. I'm not a "live your life to the fullest" type. My life started before I had it and will continue after it's gone, but I do believe in simply absorbing what's there while it's there.
  • I live a very dynamic life and have since I was young. I might stay up chatting until dawn one night and then be passed out by 5 PM the next one - likely because of the lack of sleep during the first. My pursuits, job, and the other demands of life are in constant flux. My resolution has always been to regulate these various needs and wants and to intensely focus on them when and if possible. I don't believe in being "too busy". You can always find time for someone even if it's not consistent - finding that flow and appreciation of each other is vital.
  • Photography, tech, incense, time pieces, archiving, and abstraction have always interested me and continue to do so. I'm always surprised by what people consider to be interests and hobbies, so I probably have more I take for granted and didn't list here.
  • I haven't consumed media regularly in years, but used to engage with a lot of it when I was younger, mostly including movies, anime/manga, and video games. I still watch movies from time to time, being more prone to it when I have someone else to accompany me.

Are we looking for each other? I'd greatly appreciate a reasonably lengthy chat/message in which you told me what within my ad resonated with you, what you're seeking, and anything else you may want to mention. I would like to get to know people with a level of depth akin to what I wrote here, and will end up asking about these things at some point anyway. I look forward to us chatting and connecting around meaningful and fervid passions.

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