My god I just want someone to tell me about their day.

Do people not do this anymore? Where has all the romance gone?

I want you to tell me about the apocalyptic morning you've had at work and how incompetent your boss and coworkers are, while I tell you that you're strong and beautiful and intelligent and that things will get better.

I want to hear the same jokes you make every morning about how you cant function without coffee or this month's flavor of tea.

I want to cheer you on when you start a new passion project or celebrate after you nailed that presentation.

I want to listen to the guilty pleasure songs you play on repeat to get you through the tough days, as well as the upbeat soundtracks you blare when your day couldn't possibly get any better.

I want to share a palette and a canvas while we sip on wine neither of us can pronounce.

I want to know your thoughts while we lay awake watching the stars.

I want to know the depths of what terrifies you, and what widens your eyes in wonder.

I want someone who understands that I order water at a restaurant because soda does not taste that good.

I want you to tell me your favorite foods so I can secretly fill up the garbage with my failed attempts, only to surprise you with a masterfully made dish when you get home from one of those long days.

I want you to be as annoyed with current events as I am and but be super excited to vote this year.

I want someone who complains that I have too many plants but will still water them when I forget.

I want someone who can humor the fact that I have short bursts of passion and buys too many things that I don't need.

I want someone that can laugh at the fact that I condemn modern capitalism but still pay for expedited shipping.

I want to wrap our bodies around each other under warm blankets while cool jazz plays softly in the background of a Friday night.

I want someone who will let me bury my head in their arms after I've had a rough day and make sure that I'm OK, because despite being a generally wonderful experience, life can still bring us all down sometimes, and it's OK to be vulnerable.

These days it seems like everyone in the Kink lifestyle skips right to the end, not many people are putting in the time or effort to build the trust and compassion that makes these relationships worth having, But I want to go through the journey more than I want to reach the destination.

But since this is a BDSM personal I should probably talk about it. I'm more fond of humiliation/degradation & rules than the rest of the BDSM initialism and if you couldn't tell from the wall of text above I prefer the gentler side of things, not to say that I don't mind hard doming every now and then.

I'd probably do best with a obedient sub, Someone who loves following rules and degraded in new and creative ways, if that's not something you're interested in, then we probably wouldn't work out. But no partnership is a perfect match and most of the success comes from working to make sure your partner is satisfied. So I want to learn what excites you, and what I can do to get the passion burning in your eyes.

Ultimately I'm looking for a connection before doing anything physical. I am a 29M who currently lives in Amsterdam, gainfully employed at a bank. I'm average tall with light brown skin and dark brown eyes, and I workout almost daily (in summer). It would be nice to meet someone around my age who also likes living an active lifestyle while also occasionally enjoying the quiet weekends indoors, and while I am not entirely opposed to relocating for the right person, I would prefer if you were from the same area. And if it wasn't clear I am looking for something IRL but don't mind starting off online.

So hopefully that gives a clear picture but if it didn't feel free to ask me anything. And I know people don't just jump into deep emotional relationships and that it takes time, so if you were interested I'd ask you send to me a message regarding the title of this post and just tell me how your day has been.