TL:DR - Pennsylvania native seeks other Pennsylvania natives for friends-to-relationship.

Hi there!

I'm Chris, and I'm a 27 year-old dude living in Pennsylvania. I just started a new job as a DevOps (software development software operations) engineer. I've gone from marketing to software engineering to DevOps, but what I really want to do is tabletop game design - it's just a hobby for now, though!

My other hobbies include PC and tabletop gaming (currently been playing a lot of Ghost Recon: Wildlands and Tabletop Simulator), building some tabletop games of my own, cooking, painting, and fencing.

I'm used to my own silence and doing things for myself, but having someone to lean on and be leant on in turn is sure something, let me tell you. To boil things down to basics, I'm looking for someone who has, at the very least, these two qualities: one, a constant desire to improve themselves, if not the drive - we all fall off the wagon sometimes; two, a constant curiosity, whether that's about the world around us or anything else - I ask tons of questions and not having someone else asking questions alongside me just feels weird.

Here's some of what I bring to the table:

• A love of almost all movies and TV (except for horror, no thank you!) I've recently been watching movies with my COVID book club, and have tried to keep up with what's currently playing, although the most recent thing I've seen is "Knives Out", which I really enjoyed despite not thinking I would.
• A penchant for creativity in the kitchen - I love love love to cook, and I'd love to feed you my recipes, from raspberry cheesecake to beef stew to smoked gouda pizza.
• A love for hiking, camping and the outdoors. Hiking the Appalachian Trail is on my bucket list, and I'd love to have somebody to hike it with.
• A love of learning. I absolutely adore museums - especially if they have interactive exhibits. I will always be down to go to the zoo, or the aquarium (I never got to see the Baltimore Aquarium before I moved, and really want to) or any kind of museum that takes your fancy. I'd love to just wander through a museum with someone, sharing the little tidbits we learn as we go.
• The ability to listen when you talk, provide sage advice, and just generally be the rock in the currents of life.

A little bit more about me, in bullet-point form:

• I'm not a huge fan of labels and the like. I don't want to be Mr. Domly Dom 24/7. Instead, I just want to be someone that you can lean on to take some of the decisions away, though I do still expect you to be able to make your own decisions about the small things. If you have to call me something, I'd prefer my name first and "Sir" second.
• I don't (and won't) ever want kids.
• I don't smoke.
• I've been trying to get back to the gym: I'm into my second week of using resistance bands, and I fence every Sunday.
• Despite my love of hiking, I'm still very much a nerdy homebody with a very small social battery.
• I tend to be pretty quiet and reserved overall. If you ask me the right questions, though, I'll happily gush for hours as long as I know you're actually interested.
• I penpal, and I'd be happy to handwrite you letters.
• I've been using this COVID time to slowly check things off my bucket list. I think I have about 20 more items to go and I'd love to know what's on your list so that I can help you check things off your list, too.
• My love languages are quality time and words of affection.

What I'm looking for:

• Someone who constantly wants to improve themselves, whether that's working out, learning a new skill, or just reading a new book. (I just finished rereading Percy Jackson and the Olympians, myself, and am hunting for that next recommendation!)
• Someone who wants to get to know me almost as much as I know myself, and doesn't mind my learning them just as well.
• Someone who asks just as many questions as I do, whether somewhat off the wall ("What did you want to be when you grew up, and why did that change as you got older?") or somewhat trite (Favorite snacks, favorite colors, things like that).
• Someone who wouldn't mind being the lifestyle sub to my lifestyle Dom: someone I can nurture and build up and ensure they're being the best version of themselves they can be.
• Someone who doesn't mind being cherished - pet names at a minimum, plus anything else I can do to show them that they're loved, appreciated and cared about.
• Someone I can train so that just a text message with a command from me is enough to send her whole body tingling.
• Someone who's my dirty little slut, who likes to have little reminders under her clothes that she's mine. A butt plug one day. A remote controlled vibe another. One day entirely in nipple clamps. Bruises on her inner thighs from playtime the night before. Maybe a harness she's tied into before she can go out for the day.
• Someone who can kick my ass in the street but kneels at my feet instead. Someone who could overpower me, but won't because she'd rather give up that control.
• Someone who enjoys hiking and bonfires, and is okay with at least giving fencing and/or paintball a try.
• Someone who has, if not a plan, then at least a bucket list that I can help cross things off of.

I would much appreciate if you were a service sub and potentially a brat - I very much prefer joie de vivre to just rote "yes, Sir"/"no, Sir" submission. I want you to serve me because you want to serve me.

Bonus points if you're goth or follow the goth aesthetic.

Some dealbreakers:

• Smoking, either cigarettes or MJ - mostly because I hate the smell.
• The inability to hold a conversation. Getting to know someone's a two-way street, and if I find myself asking all the questions, I'll also find myself getting bored pretty quickly.
• Kids. I do not want kids in any way, shape or form.
• Too much distance: I don't drive (though I'm trying to change that) and I'd rather not force my partner to always be the one driving.

I promised myself when I sat down that I wouldn't write a novel, so I'm going to cut myself off now. Feel free to delve through my posting history, though.

If you like what you read, shoot me a message - I look forward to hearing from you!

Best, Chris