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Intro: Yeahā¦ yeah.. yeahā¦ another one of āthoseā posts, I am sure you have seen bazillions of them. Gamer looking for gamer, nerd/geek looking for same, player one wants to find player two, otaku seeking waifu. ( ok maybe not that last one but it kinda fits in the wheelhouse ) What is different about my post compared to all the other ones? I donāt know Iām not reading themā¦ BUT I can tell you that if you bother to read through this whole thing ( and its LONG be prepared, way longer then need be ) then by the time you finish you will know for sure 100% whether or not you will message me and whether you think it will work. There is no way you will reach the end and be like hmmā¦ should I message? There is tons of stuff in here and I will start with the most important thing that way you donāt have to keep reading if it doesnāt look like it will work out.
Quickie: Before I get into the meat of things let me just give some quick background info. I am white, 6.2 and 230 pounds. I have college degrees in information technology and work for the government. I work a lot, 12 hrs a day 6 days a week, I will get to why later on. I am stable and my ideal night is a night in cuddling watching something or playing a game. I just kind of typed this out as I went, honestly it SHOULD be more organized but its so bigā¦ and I got lazy so.. sometimes I jump from category to category lol.
Relocation: The first big issue and what might be a dealbreaker for many of you is relocation. In the past 1-2 years I have been looking I have been ok with moving to somewhere if I found my special someone to build a life with where-ever they may be. My parents have been offering me a parcel of land for years but I never did anything with it because I wanted to be able to move if the need arose. Well, my love life hasnāt exactly been taking off and I got some good advice to live in the now not in the future of what could be, so I have decided to settle down here. I have accepted their parcel of land and am building a house on it. The reason I am mentioning this is because you would have to relocate over here now since I am no longer able to move. I am not about to drop a few hundred thousand Gil building a house and then up and leaving it lol. I understand itās a big issue and if its something that you canāt or simple donāt want to do, I completely understand and I wish you the best. Feel free to ask me any questions on the house/land if you need to. I am in Fresno Californiaā¦. Ugh I knowā¦ not that great of a place but Iām an introvert and spend a good chunk of my time inside anyway so its fine lol. At least being in the center of Cali itās a decent drive to anywhere in the state and lots of good weekend getaway locations though.
Distance: Ahā¦ distance distance distance how I hate you. Sometimes I feel like I have met amazing people and the distance just destroys things. One person I would even describe as being near perfect for me was literally on the opposite side of the world and after a few monthsā things started to fall off and it was sad. If you are outside of the US I justā¦ donāt see it happening especially right now with how messed up the world is. Getting a visa and visiting places outside the US just puts too much strain on things. If you are outside the US but you have a visa already and are willing to visit in a reasonable amount of time, I guess thatās ok but, in all honesty, youāre fighting an uphill battle. Even other states I would still feel leery about but your welcome to try if you are willing to relocate and come visit first. I have no problem coming to you AFTER you come to me first. I am not falling for the you come here first anymore ><. I would love It if you were in California, really doesnāt matter the spot exactly. Being in central Cali its easy to visit either side within like a 4-5 hrs drive and thatās going the distance to north or south. The closer the better but anywhere is Cali is fine to try and make things work out. I know it sucks but distance justā¦ hasnāt been my friend so far.
Family: I am pretty big on family. I am building my house on what I like to call family land. Lots of family live on this land including my parents, my sisters, grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc. We own over 20 acres of land and have over a dozen houses on it. Some family houses, and others are apartments or houses that are rent out to tenants. I am the manager of these rental units and have been for years now. I am slated to inherit them in the future and have thus started working on them as well. It can be annoying dealing with people sometimes lolā¦.when something goes wrong my phone blows up. For all you animal lovers out there we have around 50 peacocks on our land. Ever wanted to feed a peacock from the palm or your hand, pet their beautiful feathers, or hold a baby peachick? Well now you can. If you refuse to live near your in-laws, you probably shouldnāt message me, you will be within 5 minutes walking distance lol. Itās not like they are gunna be over here or anything but I wanted to mention it in case its important. That being said I have a very loving family. I am Italian, and you know how they say family and food are huge for us, well its true. Although I want you to love me for me not because my dad is one of those crazy Italian chefsā that can cook anything. Also the thing about us being hairy is completely true tooā¦.
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Personality: If you want to know a bit more about me on a personal level before actually messaging me feel free to look into my personality it is ISFJ.
https://www.16personalities.com/isfj-personality
I agree with around 90% of everything that they say on here, its scary accurate. I am a very open and honest person, if there is anything you want to know about me just ask and I will answer no matter the subject. I am obviously more of an introvert then an extrovert, but I do want to travel someday. You wonāt catch me going to the gym or rock-climbing or anything but I do love to walk and talk. I love walking outside and talking to my friends about games, its not only enjoyable and fun, but good exercise. My record for a single day is 6 hrs. My body was actually sore after 6 straight hrs of walking lol. Maybe I can add you to my walk and talk list š.
Exercise- I use to play tennis and I was pretty darn good. In California during my senior year I was ranked 16th in California ( humble brag ) and I played in college too. I havenāt played in a awhile but I keep trying to get back into it, never manages to push through though, maybe you can help! I also use to be HUGE on DDR, I was playing the hardest songs on the highest difficulty, my body just flowedā¦. It was a beautiful thing. I exercise every day, but we are talking walking/jogging here lol not going to the gym. If my partner is into something heavy like the gym or hiking, I might be willing to do it with them, but you wont find me doing it by myself lol.
Attraction: Physical attraction has kind of gone the byway over the years and I fall hard for someoneās personality now. If you put 10 people in a room with different heights, weights, ethnicities, and other different features I would be attracted to whichever one could tell me what game a random picture or character was from, or what anime this song belongs to. Your probably thinking ā¦ liar, ummā¦ thatās super weird dudeā¦.or no way lol, but its true! Something weird like that just matters more to me now. I know they say opposites attract but I donāt want no opposite, I want someone like me lol. I technically have an attraction to certain hair/eye colors and a particular ethnicity ( its not hard to guess which oneā¦. ) because of my video game and anime influences but its all topical. I will fall for your personality. That being said I completely understand it matters to people to have at least some basic physical attraction so I am happy to share pictures right away. I donāt think Iām terrible looking but I definitely am not eye candy lol. I donāt have a 6 pack or even a 2 pack. I know everyone has their own preference and I can appreciate and respect that. Letās share some pics whenever you are comfortable even right away should you choose to and soon after a video chat. This way I can know Iām not getting catfished and you can know you are ok with me.
Quality of life: during my younger years, mid 20ās to early 30ās I was all about gotta get a better job, gotta make more Munny. In the last few years though I am about that sweet sweet quality of life. Are you happy? I definitely am happy and enjoy my life, although I would enjoy it more with someone else by my side but its time for a change. To throw in a cool reference that some of you might understand I am switching up my lifeās genre from action/adventure to slice of life. Itās time to settle down and I am doing just that by building a house and I really hope I can find someone to live it in with me. I recently turned down a promotion because it would have forced me back to the building full time and I enjoy working at home sometimes and its way more important and enjoyable over a tiny monetary value.
Gaming- ahā¦ the subject I could literally talk the most about. I could put pages of info about this, and anime of course but mostly gaming. I spend most of my free time gaming. I have a pretty massive physical collection all the way from nes-ps5 and almost everything in between, It is definitely worth quite a bit of Rings. I also play on the PC. As long as you game the rest doesnāt matter. It doesnāt matter if you are a PC player or a console player. If you are a co-op person or a single player or mmo person it doesnāt matter. If you prefer specific genreās it doesnāt matter. I love all different types of gaming and enjoy talking about games I have never played even if they donāt particularly interest me. I enjoy the culture of it all. If you want me to play with you great! I would love nothing more then that. If you want to play stuff by yourself and prefer I watch instead that is fine too! I will have one arm wrapped around you and the other holding a phone to look stuff up for you. Personally, I prefer RPGās the most, action/adv, platforming, souls, a really good story in a visual novel, actually reallyā¦ most things, I donāt gamescriminate. I donāt tend to do pvp type games though, but if thatās what you enjoy Iām happy to pick it them up, evenā¦ā¦. Sports gamesā¦.. āshudderāā¦ā¦ā¦ā¦ It is all about having fun together, as long as we are doing that then itās great. I also spend a good chunk of time watching anime, all different types of genres. We can talk more about specifics on games and anime later of course. There are definitely some arcade machines in my future purchase history but Iām trying to make sure I can afford building the house which is going to cost a few hundred thousand Zeni so Iām holding off till later on them.
Music/TV- Over the years my music and tv preferences have transitioned from normal into the non-normal lol. I use to listen to rock, rap, R&B, house, trance, you know normal stuff; but now I listen to J-rock/pop, K-pop/rock, and the like. Likewise, I watched TV shows like big bang theory, house, NCIS, once again normal stuff; but now I have moved into a lot more of the Chinese, Japanese, and Korean drama/action/adventure/fantasy. Instead of using Netflix ( ok actually I still do use this ) I watch VIKI, the Asian version of Netflix lol. There is plenty more we can discuss at length later on these subjects.
Profile- My love profile is physical touch, so physical intimacy is incredibly important to me. I am not just talking about sexy fun-time either but everything from a simple peck on the cheek to holding hands, laying together, cuddling and just being intimate together and being there with each other. It is how I express myself and very important to me. If you do not enjoy physical intimacy, it will not work out. I am a very kind, supportive, loving, affectionate, and devoted person.
Ideal night: My ideal night is simply staying in and cuddling up on the couch together while either watching something or playing a game. I donāt care about moonlit walks on the beach, unless those moonlit walks are done by holding up on the analog stick and pressing the X button. I do very much enjoy going out as well though. I love a good trip to the zoo, a museum, safari, park, attraction, or anywhere where we can go and enjoy ourselves especially while holding hands. I have always wanted to take trips to places and visit other cities and countries but am just waiting for the right person to do it with. My first choice for an out of the US trip would be JAPAN. Letās sip some sake under a cherry blossom tree, visit akihabara ( video game and anime capital of the world!! ), visit shrines, special cafĆ©ās, and all kinds of fun stuff. I know this isnāt exactly the ideal spot for this but because of what I just said Iām gunna put it here. I TOTALLY wanna plant some cherry blossom trees on my land in the backyard. I am 100% gunna do this, I might try to get a koi pond too. The other thing I wanna do is make a moat with a drawbridge around the house that has the triforce symbol on it and lowers to some Zelda music. I 100% probably wonāt be able to do thatā¦.. even if I could I donāt know if I could justify the Rupee cost of it all.
Meeting up: As for meeting up I would prefer it done sooner than later. If youāre not interested in me then I would like to know rather than to continue talking for a long time. (itās happened before and its not fun spending months talking to someone when they have no intention to meet you >< ) I donāt blame you or anything for not being interested, just please donāt waste my time. I am a one-person romance kind of guy, so if Iām talking to you seriously then Iām not talking to others seriously. If you are simply lonely and just want someone to talk to, I understand, just please say so, I want to look for my partner not a friend. I would like try to meet within a monthās time but I will leave it in your court. We donāt have to be in a relationship by then or anything but it would be nice to meet to make sure itās going to continue longer.
DealBreakers: This is more for you rather than me as I donāt really have many deal breakers. The only thing I would say is obviously relocation has to be a thing, and physical intimacy has to be a thing as well, outside of that there really isnāt much for me. You should be a gamer though. I have tried talking to people that are not gamers in the past andā¦ I donāt know it just seems to fizzle out over time. My last couple posts didnāt require it but this time I think Iāll go for only gamers and see how it works out. I will include the fact that I am not into social media at all on here since it turns some people off although I am not sure why. Anyone that I care to keep in contact with I do with talk or text. I have a small group of 10 close friends that I see and talk to. No facebook/snapchat/Instagram, twitter, ticktock etc etc. You can google my full name and nothing comes up lol. Heck I barely even use reddit other then an occasional looking for love post or random video game research. I am not political; I am not religious; I do not drink, do drugs, or smoke. I do not spend a lot of coins outside of purchasing gamesā¦ lol or something else for my collection. There is no drama in my life. Children for me can go either way, I know thatās weird but its true. I know most either want or donāt want, but I can see a family of gamers and I can also see us going on trips and enjoying our time. So children can go either way, but if you do want them your going to have to be on the younger side compared to me. Speaking of age I forgot I am trying to stay within a /- 10 in terms of years. That being said the heart wants what it wants so if youāre a bit outside the range and think we match great still send me a message.
You: Preferably close, but anywhere in California works and are willing to relocate. You are a gamer. Hopefully you are sweet and kind and able to see me for the amazing person I am. Hopefully you like being showered with affection. Hopefully you love intimacy of all different kinds and enjoy a night in cuddling. Most importantly just be yourself, I wonāt try to pretend to be someone Iām not and you shouldnāt either. If we are who we are and hit it off, it will last š.
Random questions: Would you enjoy getting isekai'd away and becoming OP? Do you enjoy listening to Raon Leeās covers? Can you spend 5-8 hours zoning out on a good rpg ( breaks included ) Does a Zelda blanket, some good food, an anime, and cuddles on a cold night sound like a perfect evening to you? Do you ever get goosebumps listening/watching a video game or anime ost/trailer? Do you search everywhere for hidden items and missable things when playing a game? Would you enjoy popping in some nes or snes cartridges and going ham on some nostalgia? Do you even know what that last sentence means? If you resonate with anything just said we will get along just fine, if you resonate with everything I invite you to come live with me in a year-ish once my house is fully built and ill put a ring on that finger :p
Hidden: Did you happen to find the hidden gaming references I threw in throughout this entire thing? Super sexy if you did :p
The end: So here we are at the end. I have my flaws, I am not even close to perfect in any aspect, and I should definitely eat better and lose a little weight. That being said I am happy, I am healthy, I have my life together, I am stable ( well for the next year anyway lolā¦. ), I am drama free, and I am a very kind, nurturing, and ( insert many other wonderful words here ) person. If you think you would enjoy a life in the country surrounded by a loving family and small close group of friends then send me a message. ( I say country but our land borders the freeway and its like a 10 minute drive into town ) Besides that too many people have sold their land out here so its not that much country anymore anyway lol. There is still lots of farmland but heck there is an ulta beauty plant nearby, and an amazon warehouse. 2 day Prime delivery PAH, try 5 min WALK delivery. I just head down there and be like hey whereās my package. Iām kidding by the way so please donāt fall for me for my amazon deliveryā¦ but there is indeed a warehouse like 5 minutes away by vehicle.
If you are still reading this you either 1. skipped to the bottom or 2. are either A. interested in me B. bored and figure meh why not keep reading C: a bot. Hey I treat all people fairly bots are free to message me, makes me feel not as bad if I can say I got a crap ton of responses even if most of them are botsā¦. After reading all this, you should kind of know if Iām your type of person or not, please send me a message or a chat with some information about you and I will respond, just please donāt send me a few sentences. I will not respond unless its at least a paragraph. I am not trying to make you write an essay like me, but I need to separate you out from the bots and people who just donāt care. If we hit it off we can find some other way to talk, via phone, or a messaging app preferably discord or something else. I'm pretty shy in person and will take some coaxing to open up, and I am way out of touch with serious relationships. If however you can get me to open up and love me for who I am though, I will always respect, love, cherish, and take care of you.
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