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I find myself reading through R4R posts I'm not even interested in just to see how people present themselves. I have only posted once in here, looking for platonic conversation... which I (unsurprisingly) got zero responses for. But that lead me to wonder... what is it that catches your eye about a post? What textual personality makes you say "I wanna reach out to this person?"
I see the same keywords in every post: "Humor, introvert, laid back, etc..." So what is it that makes you say, ok this person is different, and I want to reach out to them? What don't you like to see in a post? What are your red flags? Maybe your insight will help some others that are struggling to present themselves in a way that would attract connections.
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I actually disagree with this. Iāve posted a few times and have got a varying number of responses / upvotes. I think thereās a variety of factors that go in to that and a lot of them are subtle.
I always include a photo because I feel it helps to put a face to a name
Use my real life name - makes it more personable
Humour is a big one, I get a lot of messages about how my post made them laugh so they wanted to reach out. I think this is more subtle though. I never just post a joke; Iāll be a little self-deprecating but clearly not serious about it.
Be relatable. It really depends what youāre looking for but cater to your audience. Youāre not talking to your friends here, you need to have some appeal somehow for me, sharing enough info to pique their interest but not so much they are like āokay I donāt need to learn more about this guyā.
Iām willing to admit guys get less attention on the subreddit but itās not impossible. Posts that complain about that are not so great.
Itās also telling that you get 50 responses but only 1-2 turn into actual chats. Some are low effort or you just donāt work with that person. Itās tough even then, just keep at it and find what works for you.
Anyway, I hope this helps for some.