Hey there! I'm a 31-year-old guy from Denmark, software developer by trade.

The last few years have been rough on me mentally, and I have been out of the dating game for that reason. I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety and stress, and in fact had a stress burnout about a year and a half ago. However, I've gotten back to a point where I actually feel pretty good - so I'd like to meet some new people - hopefully for a date, but also friendship.

Before my burnout, I used to spend a lot of time writing comedic songs and sketches for the student revue at my university. As well as being on stage, making props, making videos, ... - I spent a lot of time on that. I graduated about 4 years ago now, so the burnout kind of marked the end of that for me. Now I'm looking for a new hobby to take up, and give me some more meaning in my life. If you have any good suggestions, I'd love to hear them.

Most days, I like to go on a long walk and listen to audiobooks. I tend to mainly listen to non-fiction - I love learning, you know? Recently I listened to "Humble Pi" by Matt Parker, a fun little book about mathematical mistakes. Other favorites include "Bad Blood" about the whole Theranos business and stuff by Steven Pinker.

I like to occasionally indulge in playing video games. I'm not the biggest player - often I like to watch other people play instead, especially for more complex games. However, I've got a Nintendo Switch, where I just bought Super Mario Maker 2, and am playing a bunch of Mario Kart online. I also play a few games on Steam. Recently I've been playing Oxygen Not Included, Bloons TD 6, and also have been playing Cities: Skylines on-and-off for a while.

I'd also love to hear you tell me about your own passions. Do you have a silly obsession other people won't listen to you ramble on about? Try talking about them to me!

Other interests of mine: Food (eating, making, learning about), board games, comedy writing, musicals, programming, fountain pens, TikTok, Rubik's cubes, psychology, YouTube. I'm also 420-friendly.

One of the things that helped me feel better about myself recently was, that I got diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. That is, high functioning autism. It's quite the life changing diagnosis for me. I've been struggling my entire life, feeling wrong, fighting hard to hide it. That caused a lot of anxiety, and eventually I burned myself out with stress from trying to be more than I can be. I got my diagnosis within the last few months, and I just feel so much more relaxed after I've gotten it. If you're curious about what it entails or whatever, I'd love to answer any questions you may have.

As a result, I do have some things I have a hard time with. It takes a lot of effort for me to organize things, initiate things and make decisions that don't have a right answer. Not to be understood that I cannot do them at all, but they can take a lot of mental power for me to do, so often I find myself postponing them. It's usually new things that I get stuck on, so I like to set up recurring rules/systems to avoid these problems - and that works well enough for a lot of things.

Because of this, it probably would be nice if you're a structured kind of person, so I have some structure I can latch on to a bit, or so I can ask for help on decisions or setting up structure.

One thing it definitely doesn't mean is that I won't help out and be lazy. I love to cook, and want to help out however possible. I just might need some help setting up routines for it sometimes. 🙂

Obviously, I'd most prefer to meet someone else from Denmark, but no matter where you're from, your message is more than welcome. You're also welcome to write if you're a man, or just looking for friendship or whatever. I like to think I'm nice, so I'll try to get back to you.

I do tend to get a bit overwhelmed by replying to messages sometimes, so if I'm slow to reply, I may just have exceeded my message writing capacity. I apologize in advance, it just takes a lot of energy to write a good reply, and I don't always have it. And I don't want to kill the conversation with a shitty reply, you know? 🙂 Guess that's just one of my quirks - maybe an Aspie thing? Who knows. ^^

So, um, yeah. That's me. Hopefully I sound interesting. Looking forward to hearing from you!