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Hi.
I'm wanting a genuine relationship with real intimacy that is felt both ways. I'm wanting a partner, a companion through natural attraction. I do not want two people forced together through shortsighted reasons like boredom, loneliness, or some other unhealthy reason to form a relationship. I want a meaningful relationship, not something forced. In a relationship, I am a very clingy and attentive person, and Im very attracted to someone who is the same way. I just need it to be treated in a healthy and respectful way throughout it on both sides; because there is a drastic difference between a respectful way to be clingy/needy, and a disrespectful, distrusting or some other generally 'negative' place it comes from, If that makes sense. I feel very drawn to being around my partner and being surrounded by them, and me the same for them. This is a very big part of me, and I hope I communicated this well enough. If I didnt, I love to talk about these things. I can be a bit of a shut in and prefer to stay inside, but I do enjoy the occasional exploration or trying new stuff; I think theres both a curious explorer and a content hermit inside of me.
I'm a very feeling-centric person, I love communication and I'm a direct person. They all blend into me often expressing my feelings freely…which, means I'm very lovey-dovey a lot of the time if I'm really into someone, and that I try to communicate any issues I have within the relationship as I see or feel them. I love talking in general. I can kinda ask questions often, about most things. I often ask how someone I care about is feeling, especially. I'm pretty curious and exert a lil bit of interest in other peoples interests, even if they aren't necessarily an interest I personally share. I LOVE to reassure, comfort, and just overall smother someone with love and affection. If you have sad days, im a very reliable support system. :) It makes me happy to support someone, especially someone special to me.
My main love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, and then physical touch, in that order…ish. It's not consistent. I both show and feel love the strongest through these types of expressions. Sooo: verbal love and appreciation of some kind, spending time together, and physical attention/love of any kind makes me melt.
Physically, i'm 6'1' white dude, my most complimented part of me being my voice. Personality wise, I think of myself as a mostly positive person, I do laugh quite a lot, but I do have depression that sometimes makes me quiet. I'm a very playful person at heart and I'm always laughing. I try to be witty, but most likely fail and laugh at myself anyway in the moments.
I don’t really have that many hobbies, but I am interested in creating some variety there sometime, just haven't gotten around to it. I spend most of my time online gaming with friends or by myself, and it's probably the easiest way to spend time with me outside of watching something with me. When it comes to books/movies/shows/whatever, i enjoy mysteries, thrillers, and animated stories the most, but I like whatever I like. I enjoy writing in general but just things to myself. I think I'm pretty verbose, super wordy, but I enjoy it. I like words a lot! And If i were to give you a TLDR of my biggest traits, it'd be my playfulness, loving-ness, confidence and my clingy side, and I do find I have a strong attraction to others with these traits.
I need mutual respect in a relationship, I have a big thing for respect. So, aggressive mannerisms like yelling, negative sarcastic jabs, passive aggressive talk in general, it's all a big no for me and it's the quickest way to turn me away. If there's a problem, I like directness, passive aggression isn't something I like at all. I do have patience for mishaps, everyone messes up or gets upset, i do it myself. I just wont be okay with that kind of talk being the standard.
It's hard to say what exactly im looking for in someone, but I am very interested in someone who wants to be themselves around me. I know that you cant always be fully yourself around friends and family ( or at least I can't), and I'd be very happy to find someone where we could fully be ourselves in our private little space..the quirks, weirdness, faults, all of it. I can be a bit eccentric and weird at times. Im very attracted to the quality of being self-aware, especially about their faults. <3 Someone able to deal with ( Enjoy?) my fucking sailors mouth at times. Someone willing and able to compromise if conflicts arise, and someone able to communicate to me what I can do better for them. I said it earlier, but I love to please and make someone comfortable or happy in any way i can, it makes me very happy to be that comforting, gentle soul to someone feeling needy, especially for me. <3 I also love receiving that kind of attention, it makes me immediately want to give it back. Will you be my little positive feedback loop? ( super cheesy, i know)
I've talked a lot here, so i'll end it here. If you found interest in meeting me, tell me about yourself. Maybe starting with your name! I am a bit drawn towards longer responses and lots of words :), but im good with short introductions too. i'll probably enjoy reading it all and getting to know you.
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