I'm asking more for discussion purposes to hear what people have to say, where they stand on the matter, and why

I personally have gotten varying responses on this.

One post of mine, I described myself in some detail. My thoughts were that it's better to weed out the ones who aren't attracted to my look. Subsequently, in some private messages, I was told I focus too much on appearance, therefore come off shallow.

Other posts, I don't mention it at all, thinking it doesn't really fit with what I'm posting or overall doesn't matter. Following those posts, I've received messages asking me right off the bat what I look like because I've left that out or just because they want to know before going any further.

I personally think physical attraction, while overall should not be an important facet in friendships/relationships, is a critical determining factor in initial courting. I know what, I want to be attracted to the person I would be with, and I have particular taste. Which should be okay, as I don't choose what I like.

I also think you can grow into attraction but that just means you weren't aware of what was already there.

Thoughts? Concerns? Tell me how you really feel.