^{For those of you that saw the original posts (HERE and HERE), sorry for the repost-y nature of this META, but I had to have a conversation with the mods (HERE) about it, so we're all square now.}

JUST PM THEM

You know what I'm talking about. EX: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18.

Seriously, just PM them.

Why?

• Some people have a habit of putting too much personal information or even contact details into their comments, making them open to doxing and harassment.

• It's indirect and can be seen as feeble.

• Nearly everybody that comes here is looking for a private conversation, some wanting to quickly move to non-reddit mediums of communication. Those that don't usually end up in /r/CasualConversation or some other public discussion subreddit.

DON'T KNOW HOW TO SEND A PERSONAL MESSAGE?

STEP 1

CLICK OP'S USERNAME

STEP 2

CLICK THE "SEND A PRIVATE MESSAGE" BUTTON ON THE RIGHT

STEP 3

WRITE A COHERENT, RESPECTFUL MESSAGE THAT DEMONSTRATES YOUR COMMONALITY WITH THE OP AND YOUR URGE TO GET TO KNOW THEM BETTER

STEP 4

PROFIT

THEY KNOW

You know what I'm talking about: EX: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.

Seriously, they know. Don't do this.

Why?

• It comes off as desperate and needy. It's pathetic.

• Some people, mostly women, are bombarded with PMs. Following up with a comment only exacerbates their problem. Dealing with the sheer volume of notifications can be overwhelming and frustrating for those that are unprepared.

For those of you that have participated in this behavior, why? Have you ever gotten what you wanted from doing this?

For those on the receiving end, what are your thoughts? How have you responded?