EDIT: To clarify for those that are freaking out over my post, I don't care at all that people comment on gw/porn threads. I have no problem with this. Go for it. More power to you. I'm just addressing a problem in which the users of porn-accounts are responding to non-sexual /r/r4r post and being stone-walled because of it. The 2 screencaps I have here illustrate my point. I will post them in order:

http://i.imgur.com/4OPlIDe.png

http://i.imgur.com/0PagdKC.png

So I was looking at this thread and I came upon this conversation. My immediate thought was that this guy comments on a lot of porn. SURE ENOUGH I was right. He has pages and pages of comments on gonewild subs. Let me tell you what's wrong with this.

A LOT of people look at user history to learn more about whomever created the /r/r4r post or whomever replied to their own /r/r4r post. Makes sense, right? Naturally, we, as people, would rather know a bit more about somebody before engaging them, if given the option to do so. It allows us to manage risk to a certain degree and to hopefully spot something with which to expand the conversation. So if one would believe that operating within /r/r4r to any capacity would not draw attention to their user history, that would be their first mistake.

Everybody has a different perspective on pornography. Those similarities and differences can make for fun and enlightening discussion for those that are open to doing so. For everybody else, porn is a controversial or nasty topic that is best avoided entirely. Fact is, a lot of people don't want to fraternize with somebody that seems to have a strong interest in porn. So if somebody has an inordinate amount of their reddit activity dedicated to NSFW subs, then that's going to be a huge turn off for a lot of people. Why would it be a huge turn off, you may ask?

• If somebody with a porn account is trying to appeal to the average person (somebody whose personal identity is NOT defined by their sexuality), there will be an immediate disconnect in perceived personality and interests.

• Some people are uncomfortable with or even morally against pornography.

• People don't like feeling as if they need to compare bodies. If somebody is trying to appeal to the average person, and that average person checks out their gonewild-laden history, and they see body types not matching their own, they may feel that they won't be able to satisfy the interested party physically (assuming the post is about making a romantic/sexual relationship at all).

Now, it's important to note that there are quite a few people here that really don't mind seeing a little activity in these controversial subs. They accept that people make their way to these subs one way or another, and if they're particularly impressed with what they see, they feel compelled to comment. Same goes for every sub, really. The problem arises when a larger portion of somebody's history is NSFW-oriented. The account looks like a porn-account, but for whatever reason, is being used to connect with average, non-overtly-sexual people on /r/r4r and similar subs. It doesn't make sense to a lot of people. Priorities, yo.

Yeah, but what if I'm looking SPECIFICALLY for a sexual relationship?

Then that's what you should be looking for SPECIFICALLY. Stop creeping all over the average posters in /r/r4r and start looking for people that want the same things as you. There are even NSFW versions of /r/r4r and similar subs out there that would better fall in line with your interests. /r/DirtyR4R is right in the sidebar, in fact. Go there and leave the boring, vanilla people of /r/r4r alone.

ALSO, you should consider creating an alt account so that there are no more conflicts of interest. You can tailor your history to present whatever image you want of yourself.

Isn't that deceptive?

Only if you lie. I'm assuming you have more interests than just complimenting the bodies of strangers online. Subscribe to /r/boardgames or /r/photography or whatever and enjoy some time there. Many of the people that post on /r/r4r enjoy these things (and more), and will be more likely to PM you or respond to your PM if they see they have similar interests.

SIDE NOTE: STOP HAVING CONVERSATIONS IN THE COMMENTS! JUST PM OP DIRECTLY! sheesh

A little support I received via PM: http://i.imgur.com/Bd0JtKA.png

This person deleted their comment before I had a chance to respond. I didn't want my response to go to waste, so I PM'd them to keep my point clear and to see if they had further arguments. They deleted their account: http://i.imgur.com/1qDnQlB.png

Had a conversation partner give me some feedback on this post. This is what she said: http://i.imgur.com/ScvQ2Re.png

Somebody that was commenting decided to PM me for clarification. I was going to continue the conversation, but it looked like we understood each other and the post had already run it's course, so I decided to leave it as it were. Sorry! http://i.imgur.com/qXTkidE.png