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[META] Advice: Stop making weak comments in lieu of sending personalized, interesting PMs. Seriously, it's pathetic and will get you nowhere.
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An example of what I'm talking about:

http://i.imgur.com/GQdFC6H.png

Just don't do it. It's worthless. Fake some confidence and PM them. Your chances of a response may be small, but they'll be almost infinitely larger than commenting with this garbage.


Additional reasoning for those of you that need that sort of thing: http://www.reddit.com/r/r4r/comments/2g06e9/meta_advice_stop_making_weak_comments_in_lieu_of/ckedg0p

PMs are not public. They are the start of a more intimate 1-on-1 conversation that would hopefully lead to communication elsewhere. Having a conversation in the comments can expose the commenter to trolls/doxxers, and others can free-ride the information gleamed about OP, allowing them to present themselves better via PM, upping their chances of a higher quality, longer-term relationship of some kind. So conversing publicly forces participants to limit their information or conversation style, exposes themselves or others to trolling/doxxing, creates a competitive advantage for casual observers, and severally reduces the chance of going off-reddit with the OP. Oh, and it also appears feeble like what I was getting at above.

Even more reasoning: http://www.reddit.com/r/r4r/comments/2g06e9/meta_advice_stop_making_weak_comments_in_lieu_of/ckesi90

  • OP always reserves the choice to respond or not respond to any respondent. If OP decides that a respondent is not worth their time and effort, they will not respond.

  • OP always reserves the choice to respond to a respondent of higher perceived quality over another.

  • OP is always aware that their time and effort are valuable and that they may be forced to forgo other respondents arbitrarily or based on some kind of reason in order to optimize the value of their connection[s]. This one is a stretch, actually, because it's always hard to tell how much interest a post will garner and how available OP will be to respond property to any/all respondents throughout the day[s]. But there are a lot of people that put some consideration into how valuable their correspondence is compared to how much time and effort they can afford.

Therefore, in the situation of somebody like the user I posted as an example, the ideal situation is one in which:

  • OP receives no responses of higher quality.

  • OP's standards for an introduction are very low and they believe the respondent will be worth talking to anyway.

  • OP, themself, is aware that they would respond the same / are just as uninspired/boring as their respondent.

  • OP determined that they can afford the time and effort to pursue a conversation with any/all current and future respondents.

  • Or any combination of these.

But in reality, most people have some level of standards and are looking for something of substance. Few people come here to be just as bored and unsatisfied or even more bored and unsatisfied than before they came. Basically, anybody that gets greater than one respondent or has the potential to get that kind of attention over the life of the post would not have any interest in pursuing conversation with the person that I exampled above.

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