Let's get to real talk. I'd like to find a man who knows how to value a relationship. I think you know who you are. The world can be dark. The Netherlands is expensive. We all could use a close friend. And having someone to lean on is a treasure.

Of course, I'm not looking for something to get very serious quickly. This does not happen overnight. However... What having a serious boyfriend means to me is becoming a team with my partner. Where when we get upset, even despite tensions that can cause an initial blowup, we come back and put our heads together to work against the problem instead of each other. Where being told "that hurt my feelings" isn't an invitation for an argument, but a chance to get to know each other better and interact clearer the next time. Where one of my hobbies is learning ever more about them, and to spend time with them, while also being able to be alone together and enjoy things independently. Learning about their joys and follies in life. It's about sharing feelings and dreams and supporting each other in our goals. It's about wanting to know why that scene from that video game makes you cry like a baby, or why that song has remained in your heart for so long. It's about running a household together, having things clean but not clinical, our home environment full of posters and markers of our hobbies and joys and trips together. Embracing each other's vulnerability, not because we're not strong apart, but so we stand even taller together.

I'm looking for you.

Now, about me, in a lighter fashion.

I'm 5'0"/153 cm (a shorty with a lotta personality, in the land of giants!), ~53 kg, green-grey eyes, enjoy the gym but love cozy nights playing games, and usually have my hair red or brunette. I'm originally American, poly and single, and living permanently now in the Netherlands in Amsterdam. I am looking for people in the Netherlands, so in your message tell me 1) your age, 2) where you live, and 3) if you don't live near me, tell me how you'd intend to meet me, as I've already got online friends. Age range 25-39 preferred, with no offense to anyone younger, just looking for a man with some more life experience.

Sending a picture of yourself helps a lot and I can return it - reddit lets you do that after I accept your message request! :) I value conversation while also being realistic about the importance of attraction, so if you are hesitant to show a photo in the first few messages, then I understand, but that is not for me.

Some of my interests include:

• Drinks (though I'm no expert I love to mix some as well, alcoholic or otherwise 🍹). Love when a man can appreciate a Hennessy or cocktail
• Fooood! Tell me your favorites, or even show me how to make them! ^_^
• Reading (though sometimes it's off and on, I do love it so) and the occasional musing about art (do you like theater plays/opera/classical shows?)
• Video games! Destiny 2 (mainly raids and dungeons now), Baldur's Gate 3 is a gem, Diablo IV is fun to play set to other languages because the voice acting is so good, Path of Exile is such a thorough action RPG, Path of Exile 2 is fantastic for early access, Hogwarts Legacy was nice (tell me if you had a crush on Hermione from HP at some point), Life Is Strange and other narrative games, Sun Haven is one of my relaxation stations, Genshin, The Sims, The Last of Us, Silent Hill 2, Horizon Zero Dawn/Forbidden West, lots of other games in the past; love RPGs especially. Mainly a PC gamer! And my Steam library makes me happy 😄
• Watching shows and movies! BoJack Horseman and Black Mirror are some of my absolute favorites, along with occasionally a few political ones like Last Week Tonight with John Oliver. Monty Python and The Room (oh god) are also fantastic. What genres do you like?
• Adventures like roadtrips and traveling (if you have a car or can host it's a plus!), and going to saunas or thermal baths is a love of mine. 🚿 I've lived in the US, the Netherlands, Norway, South Korea, and Japan, and have been to many other places. And I've happily found my home here in NL. :)

I'm passionate, compassionate, witty, feisty, kind, and sprightly. I know who I am and what I want, without being rigid. In most respects I'm quite independent in personality, but I also very much appreciate romance and receiving affection. I enjoy a man who takes care of himself - that doesn't need to mean a steadfast gym-goer, but someone who puts effort into his appearance especially if I become his girlfriend and we're on a date. Not hating suits and knowing how to tie a tie is a plus, and sexy. To me, money enables experiencing new things and avoiding problems instead of trying to find soulful happiness with by itself. I wonder how you feel about it, if pursuing money is a very focused life goal of yours, and/or if you're a workaholic?

I mesh best with those who can experience the world from the perspective of an appreciative artist. I'm generally a pretty open and accepting person, but if you like drinking karnemelk straight, we may need to have a very stern talk. 😶 Bonus points if you actually enjoy establishing a household and/or doing handywork, that's such a great trait.

Hope to hear from you if you're a guy with a warm heart, a kind personality, and a healthy drive for love, who is emotionally available and a reasonably self-actualized individual. Also, very open to people who prefer being the big spoon; I'm smoll. I enjoy talking to laidback, thoughtful people. And honestly, I'm mainly looking for a guy to hold me and play games and have deep conversations with. Someone that makes sitting together on a couch with good food and drinks and watching a show feel like the most wonderful evening in the world.

Here to meet people willing to be vulnerable over time. I value cognitive and emotional intelligence, empathy, and vulnerability. So, tell me if you would take me out, and we can see if we mesh. 😊