Hey there. I'm 38, 6'1", 180 lbs/average. I would say that I look much younger than my age. Not hot, just youthful looking. I'm a science nerd (Physicist), but due to severe ADHD I don't really have the attention span for general nerdery. Good luck teaching me to play DnD/MtG/etc. I live in the Ann Arbor area.

Also due to severe ADHD I am an adrenaline junkie, it's the only thing that brings me focus. My life revolves around downhill mountain biking. Due to anxiety and poor coordination I'm not even that good at downhill mountain biking, but my life still revolves around it! Frequent trips to the mountains, too many bicycles, and all that.

Pretty sure I'm also a bit autistic, but subclinically. I have the social abilities of a toaster, and even that's generous.

For the past few years I've had progressive neurological symptoms, including reduced sensation and burning extremities, brain fog, worsening coordination, mild erectile issues (but based on the trajectory, I expect it to continue to get worse), so I'm kind of looking for someone who isn't scared away by health issues. For what it's worth, I'm super into going down, so if my sexual issues ever become debilitating for regular sex, I'm still going to please you! I'm also open to the possibility of an open relationship (I'm not the jealous type), but it would be nice to find a primary partner to do life with. I'm exceptionally well endowed, especially girth wise. Isn't it somewhat an amusing twist of fate to have a massive member that doesn't work right? Haha. I'm a big cuddler and need that physical closeness to a greater extent than sex.

But wait, there's more! I'm a little more than 2 months out from a 3 year relationship, and no, I'm not over my ex yet (but getting there). I have a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms for my various life issues, including junk food, denial, social withdrawal/procrastination, mentally dissociating, obsessing over bicycles/hobbies to an unhealthy extent, and also not coping well enough and getting depressed. Thankfully not drugs or alcohol (but I don't mind if you partake in things as long as it's not an out of control addiction, I do partake in 420 on rare occasions).

On paper I'm a fully functional adult, I have a stable job, never been in any kind of trouble, financially stable, even have good credit, but behind the scenes I'm falling apart a bit.

If I had to describe my type I'd say, chubby, not too girly (butch ladies are the best!), and a good match for my own red flags. I also kind of have a thing for alt gals (tattoos, piercings, and generally hard to bring home to the parents - but I will anyway - types!). But none of this is required. Also if you are obsessive about your hobbies I will dig you - I find it relatable. I'm also very attracted to confidence.

Always thought I wanted kids but probably won't at this point because my life is too messy and I don't want to be an "old dad". Not totally ruling it out though. Also open to dating a mother, but with the caveat that I still want to take frequent trips to the mountains regardless of whether or not you and your kids can come. I feel like the full on domestic step dad life can be a difficult compromise for someone who is obsessive about a hobby that requires traveling.