Honestly, the TL:DR is pretty much the title, so I'll dive right in.

My kinks, both online and in person, are control, dominance, and micromanagement. I'm particularly interested in the idea of managing how you behave/act, especially outside of a sexual context. I enjoy you relying on me for guidance/help with decisions. I want to control you outside of the bedroom in particular. Stuff like expecting you to dress a certain way, wear your hair a certain way, exercise at specific times. I've done things like schoolwork management, but I don't really care what the context is as much as that you need the help. If you're having trouble sticking to a schedule working/studying from home, I'm all about that.

If you're just not getting shit done because you need to be directly accountable to somebody - that's pretty much my jam. I genuinely enjoy it, and I love having a partner who benefits from it.

I tend to be more focused on rewards over punishments, and when I do use punishments, they tend not to be 'funishments'. I'm more likely to have you writing lines or kneeling in a corner than a spanking. In my experience, spankings are entirely too fun. I don't particularly enjoy brattiness - especially in an online dynamic I find it more work than fun on my side.

That said, I do enjoy consensual non-consent and reluctance. I want you to need this, you don't necessarily need to like it. I think the person I'm looking for will understand this distinction really clearly. Even if you're reluctant or this is hard for you, I don't want this to be intermittent and I don't want large gaps in the time we spend together. I want you available to me. I'm looking for something that has aspects of a "vanilla" relationship as well - I enjoy the emotional connection and it's a big part of what makes this fulfilling for me.

I'd like to emphasize that for me the fun of this is primarily the control and behavioral modification aspect - if you're not into the idea of this, and you don't need that part of it, I won't be a good fit for you. I tend to view sexual stuff as a means to an end, i.e. another way to help modify your behavior. That isn't to say that we'll never have any fun, but I just like to lay out my mindset for you. My view of this is that my attention should make you substantially better behaved, and better performing. Lets put it this way - if you made me pick between reviewing your calendar for the day and a picture of your outfit vs edging you until you were begging, I'd pick the calendar/outfit pic over the edging every single time.

Though I admit, all of that sounds pretty fun.

I'm interested in something online only for now. I prefer text over voice/video. I'm pretty private with pictures of myself, but otherwise pretty open about who I am and what I do. I will say I've got a couple cats.

I'm fairly nerdy - I play a lot of games in my free time (pretty wide range of stuff, I love roguelikes (playing a ton of Roboquest, Hades 2 and Windblown right now), I'm playing Destiny 2, I play a ton of Civ 6 (can't wait for Civ 7 in February!!) and play a lot of POE 2 (way too much POE 2.) And while I look pretty traditionally masculine (Italian vibes), I don't "perform masculinity" very well. I work out and enjoy it, but for example, but I'm not super macho and I'm not really planning to be. I'd say that realistically, I don't come off like a traditional Dom - if you're looking for an alpha dude, I'm a poor fit. I'm a pretty stereotypical introvert in that I keep a fairly small, tight social circle, but I do enjoy trying new stuff, particularly trying new foods/visiting new places. I'm the kind of guy who loves to travel to a new city, but brings a laptop and spends at least a few hours hiding in the hotel room every day because I need to be done with people for a bit. This should give you a pretty good idea of whether we fit together or not.

I think that basically covers the general stuff - If you're interested, shoot me a message here with a couple questions and a little information about yourself. If you're hard up for topics, I'd suggest what resonated with you about this post or why you think this would be a good fit for you.