Hey there, nice to meet you! 😄

I'm 5'0"/153 cm (a shorty with a lotta personality, in the land of giants!), ~53 kg, green-grey eyes, enjoy the gym but love cozy nights playing games, and usually have my hair red or brunette. I'm originally American, and living permanently now in the Netherlands in Amsterdam. I prefer people living close in Europe (preferably NL), so in your message tell me 1) your age, 2) where you live, and 3) if you don't live near me, tell me how you'd intend to meet me. I've already got online friends, and am looking for someone to hang with in person, so if you don't answer those questions the chance of a reply is almost zero. Age range 25-39 preferred, with no offense to anyone younger, just looking for a man with some more life experience.

I'm open to someone who loves to make a girl they care about feel good, including with oral (I'm also a hair tugger, gently). I am poly, and very sex positive, but do not want sex to be our first topic. If it does become a thing, let me know if you can host. Just be you ^.^

Pictures are available after some connective conversation, no nudes. I'm not a girl who's going to send you nudes on Snapchat, not judging but that's not me. Sending a picture of yourself helps a lot and I can return it - reddit lets you do that after I accept your message request! :) I value conversation while also being realistic about the importance of attraction, so if you are hesitant to show a photo in the first few messages, then I understand, but that is not for me. I prefer to eventually move the chat to something like Telegram.

Some of my interests include:

• Drinks (though I'm no expert I love to mix some as well, alcoholic or otherwise 🍹). Love when a man can appreciate a Hennessy or cocktail
• Fooood! Tell me your favorites, or even show me how to make them! ^_^
• Reading (though sometimes it's off and on, I do love it so) and the occasional musing about art (do you like theater plays/opera/classical shows?)
• Video games! Destiny 2 (mainly raids and dungeons now), Baldur's Gate 3 is a gem, Diablo IV is fun to play set to other languages because the voice acting is so good, Path of Exile is such a thorough action RPG, Path of Exile 2 is fantastic for early access, Hogwarts Legacy was nice (tell me if you had a crush on Hermione from HP at some point), Life Is Strange and other narrative games, Sun Haven is one of my relaxation stations, Genshin, The Sims, The Last of Us, Silent Hill 2, Horizon Zero Dawn/Forbidden West, lots of other games in the past; love RPGs especially. Mainly a PC gamer! And my Steam library makes me happy 😄
• Watching shows! BoJack Horseman and Black Mirror are some of my absolute favorites, along with occasionally a few political ones like Last Week Tonight with John Oliver (what genres do you like?)
• Adventures like roadtrips and traveling (if you have a car or can host it's a plus!), and going to saunas or thermal baths is a love of mine. 🚿 I've lived in the US, the Netherlands, Norway, South Korea, and Japan, and have been to many other places. And I've happily found my home here in NL. :)

I'm passionate, compassionate, witty, feisty, kind, and sprightly. I know who I am and what I want, without being rigid. In most respects I'm quite independent in personality, but I also very much appreciate romance and receiving affection. I enjoy a man who takes care of himself - that doesn't need to mean a steadfast gym-goer, but someone who puts effort into his appearance especially if I become his girlfriend and we're on a date. Not hating suits and knowing how to tie a tie is a plus, and sexy. To me, money enables experiencing new things and avoiding problems instead of trying to find soulful happiness with by itself. I wonder how you feel about it, or rather if pursuing money is a very focused life goal of yours?

I mesh best with those who can experience the world from the perspective of an appreciative artist. I'm generally a pretty open and accepting person, but if you like drinking karnemelk straight, we may need to have a very stern talk. 😶 Bonus points if you actually enjoy establishing a household and/or doing handywork, that's such a sexy trait.

Hope to hear from you if you're a guy with a warm heart, a kind personality, and a healthy drive, who is emotionally available and a reasonably self-actualized individual. Also, very open to people who prefer being the big spoon; I'm smoll. I enjoy talking to laidback, thoughtful people. And honestly, I'm mainly looking for a guy to hold me and play games and have deep conversations with. Someone that makes sitting together on a couch with good food and drinks and watching a show feel like the most wonderful evening in the world. Who wants to tickle her brain before he gets to touch her elsewhere. Who views sex as great, but knows in his heart and mind that one night stands and sex-based flings will not satisfy his body, soul, and brain like a deep connection would.

As may be obvious, I am clearly not the type of girl for a ONS, even though I do respect that some people want that. Here to meet people willing to be vulnerable over time. I value cognitive and emotional intelligence, empathy, and vulnerability. So, would you take me out? And how'd you celebrate the holidays if at all? 😊