hi! A little long, so bear with me in advance! I'm just trying to leave it out there so I can get all the difficult stuff out the way, and hopefully the transparency is appreciated :)

Anyways! I'm writing this out because as someone whose hacking away at a new job in my field (tech as an SWE) recently, I'm again realizing that working without someone to be excited for at the end of my shift isn't as enjoyable, so I'd love to find someone to call my own!

However, I've realized in my search, no matter how much I know I bring to the table, nobody (on or offline) seems to care if the attraction isn't there apparently, so here's me to put it out there (with a few links of me doing dumb stuff) to let you decide.

• Me doing something dumb while looking fancy: https://imgur.com/a/KFD0Xrd
• Me not as fancy, but still me: https://imgur.com/a/orml5qW

Still with me? Keep reading then!

Simply put, I've spent the last couple years single (while hacking away at my career and succeeding in my switch) and I'm at that point where I want to, well, not be single.

I'm:

• Nerdy (like literally, listen to me talk about chess and world of warcraft in a way you'll just nod your head and smile or ask to play)
• Someone who loves sports (I'm happy to hit the gym with someone or talk about the topic in general all day.
• someone who has traveled a lot (20 states) and lived in 2, and I'm never against a new place to visit, even if it means hanging out with you sometime early on!
• Doing well (now, heh) irl after having a little bit of a rough covid, so I feel like I'm in a great place in life mentally and ready to give someone my all in terms of affection and energy!
• VERY aware of what I want long term (monogamous relationship with a family long term with 1 person who would love to have biological children that is open to relocation so well, I can put the extra space I have to use here in this cool city!)

While I'm happy to answer anything my post may not have answered, I'm looking for the following (and this is out of honesty, as I've realized that rejecting those who reach out due to not meeting preferences of mine that I didn't list out is a fault of my own in fear of not potentially offending anyone, but time is something I don't get back):

• Someone with a different background in terms of cultural and physical preferences (I enjoy a contrast as a hispanic guy, so I have genuine preferences to someone white, asian, chinese, korean, european)! Nothing against anyone else, but I am a very visual person and contrast (both physically and culturally) is important to me as I'd love to learn as much as I can about someone I'm also attracted to.
• someone who isn't afraid to try things. Look, I've browsed a lot lately and I understand people don't want to be sexual right away (and neither do I, I promise), but I need a relationship with intimacy eventually (after being in relationships devoid of it), an openness to discuss what we like and I told myself I was not going to do another relationship where it was one sided. If nonsexual space all the time is your thing, totally cool, just not for me! I believe in a reasonable balance :)
• Ideally someone local, but I'm convinced everyone local to NYC that browses reddit is actually mean and shallow as hell after my experiences on here, so I'd love to find someone who'd be down to visit here and see if relocating is something you're down with eventually when we get there far enough to talk about it! (:

I however feel like I'm really flexible (and patient!!) when it comes to having an open mind, so I'd love to talk it out! I genuinely believe I'm easy to work and compromise with, so I'd love to chat!

While I've written in the past about me, and I am happy if you take a moment to read anything I've written previously to learn more about me, if you make it this far, I feel confident that we'd get along great. If you're as tired as I am not finding someone and you want to fix it as much as I do and we want the same things (including in attraction), reach out! I just ask that you:

• Tell me a tiny bit about yourself (i'm sure I'll get plenty of 2 word responses in which case i'll do the robo check of potatoes on you
• A photo of yourself (something you'd put on a dating app to not decieve, as unfortunate as I am to have to say this, heh) that shows more than your face (sfw is completely fine, but I'm hiding nothing in my appearance and with something of this magnitude (relationship searching), I'd like a chance to decide on attraction too with a full picture instead of just a face due to picture angling heh).
• Anything that stood out so we can chat about it and I'd be happy to lead from there!!

Hoping to hear from someone soon!