I am child free married poly man, AuDHD riddled, excitable geek nerd and so very eclectic. Ironically I find it insanely hard to talk about myself, but felt that it's best to give you a heads up of the kinds of rambling I go through since it's just how I express myself.

What am I looking for? Close friends where we can both be ourselves. A friendship where we can both be ourselves with the other. So let's go with new capital F Friends. A QPR maybe? You don't have to be poly, but okay that I am. LGBT . Someone able to survive overly excited info dumping. Fae Being.

At times I feel like I should be more rebellious and alt, other times I just want to find the most remote cabin in the woods that still has WiFi. I like games, be they in a board in a video or card. Tinkering and programming and being way too online. YouTube rabbit holes and anime sometimes. Introverted extrovert. I'm an easy house plant to take care of. I just need some pets, discord notifications, and to see pics of pets and how hot you made your new character. Terrible at writing but just can't stop myself sometimes. Perpetual info dumper, rambler, and eternally wandering mind.

I find that I often feel most represented by that wavey hand expression from Fantastic Mr Fox. Im sometimes one way then sometimes another. Both a hot blob of a mess but at the same time a "functioning" adult. I got it together but don't know what I'm doing. Faking it til I make it. Just plain excited to be here. A candle burning at one end already and seeing that other end and thinking hmm what if. I'm in 3 DND campaigns and wondering if its a good idea to start DMing again.

I've found that I'm much more drawn to and can connect with people who feel the same. Other eclectic souls that are out there orbiting close to stereotypes one day then using the gravity assist to launch back off into the less defined void between stars. And we all know the most fun things are the ones you meet when you're there staring into the void! The others with brains operating like mine. Where you struggle to pick favorites because you like so many things so much.

As you can probably guess from the title or the above ranting, Im quite attracted to androgyny and people comfortable not aligned to a particular identity. Oh and before this turns into more rambling let me go ahead and point out which noddles are mine in the alphabet soup. See the very big Q? Yeah that one there in the Pan? Yep it's the one that's al dente because it's Demi. What's the Q stand for? Questioning? Queer? Psudeo God space continuum!? Yes.

Okay back to rambling. Why the M4R? Fae Being? Well...

Do you defy a gender? Love that - my DMs are this way ->

Do you ever find that you're confused by what clothes might be appropriate for you to wear with which crowd? Call 1-800-MSG-ME-PLS.

Have you ever wanted to fill out a job application and were upset that the drop-down box stopped at prefer not to answer? I think it's freaking rude they didn't include the best option: the winky face emoji.

Are you reading M4R and wondering if this means you? Yep exactly.

To put it plainly, I'm looking for people who are gender bending, trans, non-binary, or any combination of the above. And if you are cis and are interested in everything I've said so far I'm guessing you're a really cool person so you too!

Really though. I've rambled on to give you some of the me - as painful as that was, to hopefully invite others to share themselves. And more than anything I want my friends to be truly themselves. It's hard enough to make connections as an adult. Harder still if either of us can't be ourselves. So be you.

And as always, thank you for coming to my TED talk.