What is compatibility really?? I have no idea. I only know what doesn’t work with me.

I know I can’t be with anyone religious or superstitious (this includes astrology). I like people who silently questions things in their head and think critically.

I can’t be with someone prone to panic. Panic = drowning

Or someone who ignores problems until they become dumpster fires.

I can’t be with anyone stupid. Really open to Interpretation there (or rather subjective sorry) Please, have read at least a few books. Maybe some graphics novels. Hell, even subtitles are acceptable.

I can’t be with anyone who wants to be saved. Or romanced. Or swept off of their feet. I want someone who is happy with themselves (plural? Maybe their self? ) and their situation. Someone who realizes the momentary elation doesn’t equal lasting compatibility.

I can’t be with anyone who’s offended easily or doesn’t have a dark sense of humor. Or anyone who isn’t comfortable around cursing. I may not want to offend people in public but I do want to whisper fucked up jokes in your ear.

I can’t be with someone who gets lip injections or Botox or plastic surgery or feels the need to “fix” themselves cosmetically. I have learned to accept myself and my “shortcomings “ I am height weight proportionate. You should be too. I don’t have a nice body. But I’m not obese. And that’s all I ask of you as well.

I don’t know if I can be with an extrovert unless they can set boundaries with inappropriate people.

And I don’t know if I can be with an introvert unless they actually want to get out of the house.

I’m going to refrain from listing my interests because I don’t know that it affects compatibility. Maybe it’s just demeanor. I have no idea.

I can tell you that I’m 42. Separated (hopefully divorced soon), Child free (and no way I’m starting at 42). 5’10. 190. Latino American (white washed) with a receding hairline and a dad bod. I hate that term but how else do you describe your out of shape but not obese physique?

I have dated a ton. Loved. I have learned to be completely ok with who I am and what mistakes I’ve made and what things I’ve done right.

I don’t want to be with anyone who hasn’t also been through a similar journey. A journey of trying things on. Being insecure. Eventually discovering you’re ok how you are as long as you’re trying to grow.

Hopefully you have at least one creative outlet. Or acknowledge that something you enjoy is somewhat creative.

Reallllllly hoping to someday meet someone who’s really cool to talk to and aspires to be an awesome DINK couple.