First of all, I don't have children, but would like them in the future. If that's a dealbreaker, please move on.

What is a platonic co-parent? Well, co-parenting is associated only with divorced parents, but in my case, I'd like to be good friends with a woman, respect each other at all times and agree on how we'd like our children raised.

Myself, I live in Ireland.

Why co-parenting for me? Because I believe that it's an extremely hard and often unrealistic job to be a good parent, worker, team-mate AND good lover to the mother of your children. It puts too much pressure on both sides. Also, I believe things like marriage, wedding vows, and romance as we know it are outdated and I just know I would not thrive in them.

I know I can be a great dad and team-mate, but not necessarily a good husband or lover.

I also believe that if the children are the focus, and not our romantic partner, then it allows us to be much more clear-headed in how we relate to each other, and it gives us more headspace to focus on the well-being of the children.

It's not to say that genuine love can bloom as the years go on and you think "My God, I love this person, they are people I really repsect and I know they respect me." To me, the best love is in mutual commitment to each other, and I believe that the concepts of a "life partner" and "romance" more often than not get in the way.

I have had this in my life, and it is the only reason my life works so well, it is what saved me.

I believe in "Agape" (Greek for Universal Love) but not romance. I want to relate to the mother of my children with a genuine love, respect and support, without the unrealistic vision and fairy-tale of "romance" getting in the way.

What if I don't have any romantic partners as a result of this life choice? It's one I'm happy to take, because with children, I know I will have something to live for, and I know I can trust the mother to have the interests of the children at heart.

Are you a woman who can relate?

Here's what I'd like:

I'd like the future mother of my children to be younger than me, and would like to have kids in a few years, rather than now, because I myself am busy in my career and saving up for a place of my own. Once I have my own place, I can focus more on a financial legacy for my future family. So it's best that a woman would also be happy with this.

To live in seperate places (happy with different countries, Europe preferred just for the sake of ease of seeing you and the children, any further would be quite hard, but I'm not closed off either).

I want to support the mother as she is pregnant and needs time to recover from giving birth.

I want a platonic relationship with the mother because I want to focus on working as a team together for the children.

I'd be happy with the child living primarily with the mother.

I'm very happy to support the mother and children financially. We need to discuss whether the mother wants to work or not while having children.

I want to make sure my child learns English. Having a child with a non-English speaking parent is totally acceptable to me, as long as she is also very keen for her children to learn English, and learn it damn good when they are young.

I want to make a long-term life insurance fund for the mother and children, in case something happens to me, and the mother has something for when I am not there anymore.

I also want to plan long-term to ensure the family has a good financial legacy.

I want us to agree on how to discipline the children.

I could say a LOT more but I suppose it's best to talk about it.

I speak not only English but French, Spanish, Italian and German. To a lesser extent I also speak Swedish and Russian.

Do get in touch if this is the kind of future you can see for your children, and if you'd like to make a new friend. Thank you.

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