I've spent much of my life trying to achieve-achieve-achieve and am pretty damn close to having the life that I want: I have a great kid, a beautiful place to live, a decent job and some fun ways to spend my time.

Sure, there are still things I'd like to come my way, but for the most part I'm sick of hustling and am looking to settle down for a bit and enjoy my time here on earth.

Funny enough, I always thought that the life that I wanted included a husband - but, I had one of those for the past decade or so and I realized that it isn't a husband that I want. What I want is to spend time with people that I enjoy in relationships that are mutually enriching.

And what does that look like? Who fucking knows. It will likely look different with different people, and I'm not stuck on one vision of what those relationship(s) could/should be.

Some things to know:

• I'm keeping things semi-casual right now commitment-wise and will be dating more than one person at a time. I'm not looking to settle down/get married/have more kids/live with someone.

• I'm not sure if I'll ever do the monogamy thing again (although I'm not ruling it out 100%)

• Though I'm hoping to do things less traditionally going forward, I'm still looking for emotional intimacy, chemistry, and general vibing - I live for that shit.

• A large majority of people who reach out are married or in serious relationships. While I don't judge, at this time I would like to connect people who aren't in uber-committed relationships. (Full disclosure - I'm actually currently dating an attached person who I adore - so obviously I really can't judge - hah - but navigating everything that comes with that is less than ideal and I think I should avoid it going forward)

• I don't meet a ton of people "IRL" and prefer to chat for a bit before meeting up offline. If we have a good connection via conversation and I want to meet up I will definitely let you know.

• I have about 50% custody when it comes to parenting so I'm really only available half the week. If I could see the person I'm dating once a week that would be great, but more than that might be a little challenging.

Okay, now the fun stuff. And I promise I'm fun, even if I don't sound like it.

-I live in a beautiful place in NW Washington. It is within commuting distance to Seattle (an hour -ish north of the city) but I don't like commuting so if my job ever makes me stop WFH I don't know what I'll do.

-I love my job and they're pretty reasonable so I don't think they'll make me come into the office more than a few times a month

• I have two cats. I like people names for animals.

• I have one child. I adore them. Being the best parent I can be is important to me. I think I'm an okay mom. Would love another kid but there are about ten factors working against me so it's not going to happen.

• I participate in capitalism but I'm not super happy about it

• I like developing my personal style, wearing things that are interesting but not too interesting. I haven't worn jeans in three years.

• I have some problems with my health, which are exacerbated by the shitty medical system that I'm constantly trying to navigate. Figuring out what was causing my mysterious and debilitating symptoms and being able to pursue treatment for it is one of my biggest achievements in life. Shit is still a work in progress but I feel good about whats to come.

• I'm recently separated (within the past year) and am just getting back into listening to music. My stbxh didn't like my music so I kind of suppressed that part of myself (along with other stuff) but I love pop punk and adjacent music. My favorite band is Alkaline Trio. You definitely get bonus points if we have music in common.

If any of this sounds interesting or like we would be a fit feel free to chat me up! I am much more likely to reply if your message has done substance/personalization.

Have a great weekend!