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Helloes~
As stated above, I'm a 34 year old fella, living in Turkey right now, I'm a programmer and also a streamer on the side. I'm 1.90m tall (I believe that's about 6'3 if you prefer to measure things with your feet :p) and somewhat on the chubby side, but hopefully not for long. Overall I'd say I'm a rather chill and carefree person, can't say I'm overly ambitious, I'm more the supportive and nurturing type. INFP-T Mediator personality if you're into that, and if you know about the 5 Languages of Love, mine would be Quality Time and Words of Affirmation foremost. I'm not religious, and I don't use any drugs or smoke or drink. I'm a bit of a homebody, and a nerdy gamer guy and a bit of a goofball :)
I love games with a passion :) (PS4/PS/PC/Switch) To me they're nothing short of another form of art, and much more than a simple pastime. I love being a streamer as I have a desire to share these experiences which are special and unique to me, so I guess it is fair to say that it would be a huge plus if you're also a gamer or at least open to the idea of it. I also love chess, would absolutely love to play with you if you know how to.
Other than that, I like to watch some football(soccer), snooker, reading fantasy novels or interesting historical facts occasionally, also cinema and music. Music has a big place in my life, and would love to exchange some songs :) I would totally create playlists for you eventually as I get to know more of your musical taste, if that's something you'd enjoy :)
Also, I love animals! I don't have a pet right now but I've had various pets throughout my life. And I want a Shiba Inu in the future, I love their chubby cheeks and silly smiles so much :) They doin' me a fascinate.
I'm not a very outgoing person, on most days you can safely place a bet on me being at home. I work from home, and naturally I also stream from home, and if you add the fact that I don't have any friends in the vicinity, there is little reason for me to go outside. I moved to a city where I literally don't know anyone other than family, and it's not easy for me to meet people with shared interests, so I try my luck online instead. But at the end of the day I think it's safe to say I'm a bit of an extroverted introvert who is talkative but prefers hanging out with one person at a time instead of large groups. I value my peace and solitude at home, and I would love to find someone to be a part of my peace and solitude - part of my 'comfort zone' so to speak, someone that feels like home.
I've had a pretty lonely life and the few relationships I did have in the past always left me disappointed and frankly appalled at how people can be so rude to someone they care/cared about. But I can also say that those experiences made me realize more about who I am and what I want, and taught me to recognize and appreciate the honesty, openness, loyalty, kindness and compassion in people and I value that, and I think those would be the best things I have to offer (especially honesty is very important to me, I need to stress that). I'm a gentle and caring soul who just yearns to find that special person to cherish my time with and share everything. I'm a hopeless romantic that thinks love is a very special thing and pretty much gives everything else their meaning. I want someone to share my day with, laugh together and cry together, someone to laugh at my silly puns and dad jokes as well as have deep philosophical conversations with me every now and then. Someone who is open to share who they are, and someone I can be comfortable around and can just be myself with and trust completely. And ideally, I would love to feel that we make an unbreakable team against the world.
Of course, I also know it takes time and effort to reach that level, and I think respect and communication should be the foundation of a good relationship. I always prefer to talk things out and be proactive and mature, rather than burying any issues, so I really appreciate straightforward people. I absolutely hate unnecessary drama and vanity. I'm willing to make the effort to really get to know someone and form a deep connection. I think a conversation needs to flow both ways, if you are the kind of person that only replies with a few words to everything, chances are we won't be compatible. But especially, I must stress this: if you're the kind of person to "ghost" people, please spare us both the trouble and stay away, I find it extremely rude and disrespectful and nothing hurts more me more than that.
I have to admit to having a slight fear of abandonment, so reassuring words every now and then can go a really long way with me. Being a romantic and sensitive guy with stupid ideals makes me a bit too naive and vulnerable I guess, because I often don't know how to deal with the rudeness displayed by people, and I'm afraid to think if I have to "toughen up" and become insensitized that would also mean losing touch with who I really am deep beneath, which is not what I want. So I really, genuinely want to be in the company of kind hearted souls, respectful and emphatic. If that sounds like you, then I'd be happy if we get to know each other better.
I'd be up for a long distance thing as we get to know each other and grow closer over time, and see where it goes. I think it can be a good starting point because it allows us to focus on each other's thoughts and feelings and personality, rather than sex, and if you can love someone for those qualities then it can be a solid and lasting relationship.
In short, if you're a kind, emphatic, talkative, honest, humorous and witty person I'd like to know you! I know I didn’t focus on my interests and hobbies here, but I’m sure we’ll get to know those things about each other soon enough.
PS: I would prefer DMs instead of Reddit's chat feature (and then Discord possibly) And please don't just say "hi" as a response to a post this long, tell me a bit about yourself too in your initial message.
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