Unfortunately I'm one of those idiots that go on tinder looking for friends. I'm considering trying casual stuff again, but like. My journey. Understand. I put myself out there so... uncomfortably. And tried all sorts of shit.

Casual physically doesn't work for me.

Like I'd be soft as the tummy of a cute newborn puppy.

So many terrible stories.

Anyway. I just.

Ok. I tried this with someone and they freaked the hell out.

I have a relationship itinerary.

A vague outline.

We start as strangers

Meet up after mutual interest has been established.

Become friends, or advance back to strangers

Then go on cute dates and love on each other.

In my head. This is entirely reasonable and practical. Maybe. Hey maybe we end up really liking each other and jump all the way to going on cute dates.

But that would, for my end, only be because I see in you someone I want to spend time with, as a friend. Minimum.

I feel like. I'm speaking my truth quite loudly.

100% platonic friendship is not my goal. If it's the result of our interaction, I won't be sad. I have references for this.

But it's not where I'm aiming at. I'm not here looking for platonic friends, I'm looking for something long term that is based on friendship.

I feel like this is making sense, but the way my inbox ends up is kind of scary sometimes. 😅

I ended up adopting a stupid way of typing to combat it where I just over explain everything.

ANYWAY. I'm a huge fucking nerd. Whatever you're thinking, think bigger. Not like in a " I collect all the stuff and have infinite figures" or whatever. And not even in just that way.

I spend a lot of my time. Walking. Napping. Reading. And studying. I didn't realize this for a while. But I spend a lot of time studying.

I get enormously passionate about the things I move forward with.

My ideal woman bathes regularly. Pursues their personal growth. And most importantly. Is over 21 years old. Teenagers give me the heeby jeebies.

These are just like a small portion of my non negotiables. The other stuff is like. Obvious.

Like. Who wants to deal with a bigot? Racist? Lmao. Not me. Not anyone I'd want to know.

I connect and care about values. And principles. And ultimately that's what gets me wanting to get closer to someone. But like. The seasoning. The stuff I like but aren't deal breakers. ARE NOT IMPORTANT. But helpful.

If you like to read.

Have nerdy interests.

Hmm. I may add this to my deal breakers though. This next one.

Physically active. I can't deal with someone that almost exclusively wants to sit on their ass and do nothing. Hmmm. I like to walk and bike and if I knew how to swim. I'd do that.

Oh. And. Curvy ladies. A . If you got it going on. My head is definitely snapping your way.