Hello,
I am an experienced Daddy/Dom Looking for a free-use submissive.

I am not looking for TPE (Because, as I understand it, TPE would mean that I dictate how you behave and live your life, even when we are not physically in the same proximity... and I do not want Total Power over your entire life, I just want to be in-charge when we are in a kinky headspace).

My Dominant/Daddy Style, and love languages are as follows:

Physical Touch.
Quality Time.
Words of Affirmation.

I "Role-Play" as Dominant, which means that It is not the dominant acts themselves that I enjoy, it is the knowledge that my sub is getting pleasure from whatever acts I am performing. So, we would need to fill out a BSDM compatibility diagram, so I know what your needs are, and what is off-limits, and then while I am "free using" you, I can surprise you with some of the things you have expressed interest in. (But you will never know which ones, because it's a surprise, and variety is the spice of life).

It will be up to us to decide our level of involvement.
I, personally, need at least 1 in-person meetup per week, but would be very happy with more than that.

Outside of the bedroom, I am looking for someone that I can treat as an equal, someone to cuddle on the couch or bed and watch Movies/TV with, someone to do platonic activities with outside the home (road trips, concerts, movies, museums, art galleries, escape rooms, record shopping).

I am not opposed to a "Partial Power Exchange" when we are spending time together IRL. (but only when we are together, I do not wish to takeover your personal life).

Example: Back before I knew anything about kinks, I dated a mormon Gal, and the entire time we dated, she never made any decisions, and would outright refuse to make them, instead, deferring every decision to me. "I am hungry, you wanna go grab a bite? Her: sure if that's what you want. ::At the Restaurant:: "I am going to get a Waffle, Eggs and Bacon, what can I order for you?" Her: Whatever you order for me will be fine.".
::post-date:: "I had fun, but it is getting late, I should probably take you home because you have church tomorrow, and I don't want your family to worry." Her: If that's what you want. Me: "Well I want to take you back to my place, and cuddle and spend the night, but I don't want to get you into trouble.". Her: "Whatever makes you happy is fine by me" ::Next Morning:: "I slept great, and enjoyed our time together, let's get you home, so you don't miss church." Her: "If that is what you wish".
Me: "TBH I could spend the rest of the weekend with you.". Her: "I am happy doing whatever you wish."... and so we spent the weekend together.
Now: I know this wasn't a kink she had, she was simply "Mormon Submissive"... aka looking to become a Tradwife. And at the time, this was too much for me. I couldn't help but feel like if I went beyond 2nd base, that I was taking advantage of someone of diminished agency, and decided to just be friends.
(Of course, I am fine with this scenario if it's a kink, but in the example given, she had no idea what a kink was, she was the victim of religious brainwashing, and I did not wish to exploit that).

About me:
5'10, 180lbs, Caucasian, clean-cut brown/grey hair, blue eyes, grey/brown tidy beard (I am not overly attached to my facial hair, it's negotiable).

I am a t-shirt Dickies Pants Hoody kinda guy.

I am chill/laid-back, kind, respectful.
I have a punny/dry sense of humor (Like Mitch Headberg, Norm Macdonald).
I am an IT nerd by trade, a music geek by hobby.

I enjoy 80s Movies and Music, and 80/90s inspired Techno/IDM.

I like Sci-fi (robots/Ai, time travel, dystopian, dream exploration).

I generally consider myself a monogamist, and would prefer a monogamous partner.
(At the very least I do not want to be a third wheel in someone else's relationship, I want to start with just the two of us, and if you absolutely need to explore non-monogamy later, we can come to some kind of agreement for how that will work, but not until we have established a good sense of trust and communication).

I also do not consider myself a sub at all, but might go switch, on occasion, if the scenario is intriguing (like maybe a JO encouragement scenario or something similar).

SFW pics available on request.
Locals only please. In-person (I am not looking for an online relationship).

I think that covers most of the juicy tidbits.
I look forward to hearing from you.