This will be long, so if you're not ready to read a book, move it along. I will try to be as succinct as possible :)

Speaking of books, I'm working on over a dozen.

I'm a very prolific writer and creative type, artist, activist (lefty) and neurodivergent quirky weirdo in search of a life partner. I hate dating apps and meeting people in this city is nigh impossible.

Perhaps my person is in a different state? I'm open to that, but just know I never plan on leaving the West Coast (like, for moving obviously, I'll visit elsewhere) and you must be open to moving here eventually or be really really convincing that I should move to you (this would be nigh impossible, fair warning)

I'm a non-binary afab femme and you must both know what this is and respect my journey wherever it takes me. Men who are bi/pan and/or attracted to androgyny move to the front.

Physically I'm biracial, thicc/curvy but not fat and working on my body always, I've never had any complaints and many people find me to be very attractive. I'm a bit goth, a bit alternative, my style changes frequently and I love dressing up.

I plan on becoming more active I love some sports and enjoying the outdoors as much as possible. That said I'm very much an indoor person at heart, I love libraries, museums, and watching movies in. I like some video games but I try not to play too many because my time would be better spent writing.

My goals in life do not include children unless me and my partner decide to adopt. I do love dogs and animals so if no kids, yes dogs and reptiles and whatever else you'd like.

My goals in life do include getting a degree likely in Psychology. I love learning about the mind, I have several conditions myself but I don't let them stop me- I'm thriving or at least learning to and I want to help others thrive. I also plan on having a huge closet of clothes, going to festivals, light traveling, getting published, community organizing and falling madly in love with a partner who compliments me and we're obsessed with each-other.

I'll let you take care of me, though I don't explicitly need it. I need tons of love, attention, and some guidance. Help me fix my broken parts and I'll happily devote my life to you. Find the hidden parts of me and treat them like gold and I'll do the same for you. I love exploring the mind and I am very spiritual though organized religion doesn't appeal to me.

My positive qualities: I cook gourmet meals (vegan, vegetarian and pescetarian) and I genuinely love cleaning. I love home decorating, I'll turn our abode into a lovely work of art. I'm thrifty and ingenious. You will never be bored with me- that's a promise. I love problem-solving. My approach to arguments is that it's us against the problem, not us against each-other.

My negative qualities: I can be a bit bossy and controlling even though I'm submissive in the bedroom and in general. I have many sides to me and you might struggle to keep track of them. I don't really care what people think of me. I'm an attention whore. I love rituals and routines. I'm set in my ways yet can change on a dime if I truly want to. People say I'm intense and I agree. I could talk forever yet other times I'm selectively mute. I will silently judge your cooking if it's not as good as mine. Why not let me make all the meals? I'm so good at it.

You are: a hopeless romantic and a weirdo, Dominant/Top or Switch, 24-49yrs old, in reasonable shape give or take and cares about your looks (I'm not shallow, I like many body types, just don't want to date a slob), open-fucking-minded, very fucking progressive even if your kinks run the opposite, have your shit together, intellectual preferably demisexual, high libido once your mind is engaged (as am I), looking for long-term but not in a rush to find it (I want to fall deep but not looking to jump into shallow waters), won't rush the stages of the relationship, doesn't jump into sexting randomly, can and will travel to meet if you're not in my state. Anti-racist and pro-trans rights. Not married. Monogamous or at least Monogamish. And no kids.

Please message me with something that lets me know you read my post and a little bit about you. None of this "well what would you like to know?" I want to know everything. I want to know that you can hold up your end of the conversation as well as your end of the relationship. I'm fucking smart so don't play me ;)

If this post is still up, I'm still looking.