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As the title says, trying to step into the dating world after just 1 year and 6 months.
MUST READ IMPORTANT CONTEXT: However, I'm making a change in my search of a potential life partner after my previous ex of a military bf ghosted me then but wanted to give me closure to apologize to me for how I was abandoned, all the while already having a new gf which ripped my heart out.
Despite my utter contempt and bitterness towards him for how he treated me, it made me want to realize in finding a appreciative military guy truly worthy of a girlfriend.
A kind, innocent, mild mannered, well adjusted younger military guy (18-22 as a soft limit, 18-29 as a hard limit) prolly grew up as a midwestern farm boy from a small town... you get the gist.
Someone who I could actually see the real possibility of being life partners, emotionally supporting him as he gradually rises up in ranks. And if an ambitious guy, I'd support him through joining special forces or let's say ranger school.
That was my plan when I was with my then ex bf as that was he was interested in trying to join special forces. Thought he would be the last guy I would be with permanently since I was so elated. Clearly, that wasnt the case when he decided to stop all contact because a relationship was too much for him at the time....
I'd want a partner I can be proud of who can achieve great things. A guy who earns respect through his peers perhaps even woth the older cadre, maybe transforms into a leader. One who seperates himself from the would be no-different college frat bros who drink all day. A completely healthy relationship, where communication between each other is natural
Because I also strive higher, my work ethic including especially when I introduce myself.
Call me delusional for being interested in a military guy because while a majority are toxic, I can spot the type of guys who are actually sweethearts. Like the type of sweethearts that knew each other from high school and are still together. And that's just one example.
After all, the military can mold certain guys to great leaders, and transfer those well adjusted traits into being a great man in their personal life. One who distinguishes themselves from the rest.
Now thats about what I want in a partner, I'll tell you about myself.
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I'm a postgrad doing International Relations, 6'1", S.E. Asian, and I write news articles on national security related topics (have written and had my first article on a China-Taiwan hypothetical conflict published by my main uni newspaper) where I hope I can secure a government job once I graduate or during my time in uni. Ideally, as a foreign policy (or any public policy) adviser
I also like playing a bit of video games like Project Zomboid, Re4 remake and American Truck Sim where I have a dedicated YT ASMR channel for relaxing sounds of truck driving.
TV shows I watch are 12 Monkeys, 24 and Law and Order SVU and Law and Order original.
Personality wise, I'm very affectionate and emotionally supportive, capacity to be very vulnerable to the right guy.
Would like a guy to take a chance with me in having a stable, long lasting and hopefully permanent relationship. A guy who is emotionally intelligent.
Any interested applicants, include 'orange' in your messages. No low effort messages please. Will not reply to throwaway accounts or w/o post history, and guys simply asking me to look at my article.
Disclaimer: (If I feel we're close enough for a relationship then maybe I'll show you my article. But I am not willing to show strangers so they can be entertained and I leave empty handed after a false hope in someone prospectively interested in my post. At the end of the day, I'm looking for a relationship, if you want simple chats, go look for someone else to bother
Also I'm not interested in talking and a guy being MIA for days or just a flat out refusal to talk when you clearly seen my messages asking "How are you?" especially through D*scord.
Been burned hard too many times by guys who I engage in depth conversations with but then decided to dip out for no reason. If you're one of those guys, don't waste my time.)
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