I don’t really like people. But I want to find one person I do like, so we can dislike people together. Similarly I can’t say I’m very fond of all the goings-on in the world. It can be interesting to observe, but sooner or later the realization hits that I’m stuck in this mess too. Being cozy together while musing about all this in an “us against the world” kind of way sounds like an ideal way to cope.
World view compatibility is important for that to work well. That is hard to work out from a single wall of text like this, but I can say for sure that a deep thinker with a healthy dose or two of skepticism is a good match for me, so that when we eventually run into a disagreement it will be an opportunity for an interesting discussion leading to a broadening of perspectives. I’m not only interested in what you think, but also why. Agreeing to disagree is much easier if I know your position is well thought out.

• Non-smoker, and allergic to furry pets.
• Not interested in children.
• Non-religious, but don’t fit in the edgy new atheist camp either.
• Not very active, but take care to not stray from a normal BMI.
• I’m a bit of a clean freak with respect to some things. Though it is probably slightly less strange to have inside/outside clothes since the pandemic.
• I can be very driven once I get into something, but have a hard time committing to something new.
• I moved to Switzerland, from the Netherlands, for work (programming) a couple of years ago but my German still sucks.

Overthinking things, and re-reading messages before I send them is common for me. This also means I appreciate the effort when someone puts their thoughts in writing well. An easy way to annoy me is to reply to my multiple question email with only one answer.
I’m not active on social media and I would prefer if you also don’t like sharing your personal life with internet strangers, with me being the only exception naturally :).

I prefer erring on the side of too little contact rather than too much. Missing someone or feeling missed is more appealing than getting tired of each other. We will need to find a balance with this together.
This also leaves room for us to have hobbies next to a job (and no Netflix isn’t a hobby). Which is good, as I think it is attractive to be passionate about something especially if it involves creating something. You might even be able to convince me to get into whatever you are into (bonus points if some of my technical skills can be of use), and in return I will be able to unload the interesting facts about whatever I’m diving into at the moment.
Some of my hobbies are playing stringed instruments/synths, 3d printing and electronics. Some of my not-hobbies are gaming (sim/fps) and watching/reading anime/light novels (also playing BG3 at the moment). I also spend a good chunk of my week listening/watching podcasts while I have 2009scape open on the other half of my screen.

I’m not super into traveling. This is partially because traveling on my own is a little intimidating. If you want to fly all over the world multiple times a year then I’m not really a good match, but I would like to visit Japan at some point.

I’m interested in building a stable and long lasting relationship and I don’t mind taking the time for that. I’d rather keep my friend circle small, but high quality. My introversion is already taking care of the small part, maybe you can take care of the high quality part?

Building a relationship with so much trust that we can share all our thoughts and be comfortable showing our vulnerable sides, is my goal.
If this or anything else I wrote resonates with you, send me a message so we can find out if we are eccentric in a compatible way. It will be appreciated if you can tell something about yourself and/or link your own R4R post if you have one, and also describe what part of this post motivated you to write me. I prefer private messages over chat, since I don’t get notifications when receiving chat messages. I also prefer to sit down and write a long message over sending back and forth single lines.