Hi r4r! I cross-posted this from r/bdsmpersonals, so that’s why it’s kink-centric :)

I’m looking for a long-term relationship with a dom who’s gentle and empathetic. I love the feeling of being cared for and protected, and I’d like to know that when times are getting hard, I’ll have someone I can rely on to be there for me. And I want to provide for that person in return <3 That being said, I’d prefer to start as friends and to get to know each other well first; good compatibility and trust are so important!

About me:

I’m 27 years-old and I’m a biology student, but I also make digital art and work with animals on the side. I love nature (walks, hiking, gardening, rock climbing, birdwatching, mountain biking), but also staying in and being cozy (knitting, crosswords, video games, drawing, pottery, etc.).

I like to learn and I’d say I’m an academic type, but I do my best to live my life with a balance of logic and fun. I think there is beauty in the mundane, and I'd love a partner who can see adventure in little things, like grocery trips and gardening.

I really love animals and plants and have a caretaker personality, but life has honestly been difficult lately, so I'd really enjoy feeling cared for, too!

I also enjoy witty people who can banter a bit ;)

Physical Description:

I’m 5’1", 110 lbs. Blue-green eyes and a brunette, but I dyed it blonde earlier this year and my pics reflect that. It’s currently a little darker now. Here are some pics of me!

What I’m Looking For (vanilla-wise):

I’d really love a partner around my age who is a good communicator, has empathy, and is able to treat me as both a girlfriend and a best friend. It’s a big plus if you live in the PNW (or are willing to relocate eventually) since I really like it here :)

Green flags for me are: intelligence, humor (you’ve gotta be prepared to get weird memes sometimes, sorry not sorry), honesty, patience, a sense of fun/adventure, and compassion. I’d say I’m on the more extroverted side but I do like my alone time, too.

Physically, I’m not going to list specific features I like- attraction can be so individualized- but I do want to be attracted to my partner! I will be a lot more interested in anyone who shows what they look like; it would be really hard to message someone a lot, only to later find out you’re not physically interested in them. That’s why I’ve attached some full-body photos, so you can tell if you’d be attracted to me, and to help you feel more comfortable sharing pics back. I can send face pics if we hit it off (I’d prefer keeping my face private from all of Reddit rn haha)

I also tend to form a lot of my attraction to people based off of voice and vibes- so if you have a nice voice/attractive personality that’s a big plus!

What I’m Looking For (not-vanilla-wise):

One thing that I’ve found missing from my previous relationships is a healthy D/S dynamic, which I would love to experience. I think I’d like to start out vanilla and go from there, but I’m pretty submissive and would love someone who will appreciate and nurture that. I’m not looking for a big ol’ 100% 24/7 dynamic, but I do want some elements of it in my everyday life. While I’m a responsible person, I sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed and wish I had someone who’d enjoy helping to keep me on track. I’d say that I’m looking for a soft dom, since I love power dynamics, control, protectiveness, providing for my partner and being cared for in return, but I don’t think I like degradation, sadism, cruelty, etc.

Because of this, I’m looking for someone who understands the fundamentals (consent, safety, aftercare, etc.) of BDSM, and is looking for an actual partner, rather than just someone to fulfill their fantasies. That being said, if you take care of me, I’ll definitely take care of you. I adore doing what I can to make my partner happy <3

I won’t go into tooooo much detail about what I like kink-wise specifically, just since I’m very private and like to keep anything sexual between my partner and me! I will say though, my hard limits are pretty standard!

Dealbreakers:

Please no conservatives (I'm a leftist, it just wouldn't work, sorry!), anger issues, smokers, or people looking just for hookups. I'm also allergic to cats (considering this is Reddit, I'm sure half of you are gone after that one lmao)

To make it fair, here are some things that might make me a dealbreaker for you (I don't want to waste anyone’s time!): I do have pretty bad anxiety/trauma. I go to therapy for it, though, and am very aware of how it works and what helps or makes it worse, so it's not untreated or anything. It just means I need a little extra patience at times. I also have an autoimmune disease which may understandably put some people off. Nothing terminal, but it can be painful and causes some added stress for me. I manage it pretty well, all things considered.

If I sound like a good fit for you, please message me and tell me about yourself, what you’re looking for (especially in a vanilla sense), and please do send me a pic of yourself, so I can know if we’re physically compatible. If you want to show that you read my post all the way through, you can add the phrase “P hudsonia.”

Thanks for reading, I look forward to hearing from you! <3

Edit: I seem to be having some issues with Reddit's chat function randomly deleting chats, and I'm not sure how to fix it... I'm really sorry if we were talking and that happened! So odd... I'm looking into it. DMs seem to be working better?

PS: If you recognize me somehow, just since I’m admittedly nervous to be linking pics of myself on a post like this… pretend you didn’t see me here! lol