It’s that point between Christmas and New Year where the days have now rolled into one period of time where they all just feel the same and I’m not really sure what day it is any more :-p In a way it’s been lovely to have some time to unwind but at the same time I’m missing that sense of structure that makes up the week! Anyway seems like a good time to reflect on the year and build the foundations for the year ahead.

2023 has been an interesting year and it all really culminated with an experience only a couple of weeks ago in a hotel room involving my first set of lingerie bought off Vinted that by the end of it left me feeling contempt but also confused.

I wasn’t expecting that, if you had asked me before I would have said that it would have pushed me over the threshold of exploring further into the fetish and lifestyle side of things but instead it left me uncertain of how to continue. Why am I being a bit cryptic? This is a public lost after all but happy to share more as we get to know each other over chat :-)

What it did make me realise is the importance of being really clear with the person I am talking with to make sure we are both on the same page and have the same interests at heart.

Unlike a lot of posts on here I am not looking for a typical sub/dom dynamic, it’s far deeper than just completing tasks or something one off. That said an element of encouragement is important, I’m quite impressionable and realised that the enjoyment of someone else is extremely important in the things that I am doing, and almost take precedence over my own desires. To get there takes time and trust and that needs built over conversations and sharing.

I have some previous posts up where I have tried a few different approaches to catch the right attention, surprisingly enough I don’t really get many responses but all it takes is one response from the right person and you’re out there somewhere, I know it!

Where I stand from a gender perspective was getting clearer and then now I’m just even more unsure. Away from here it’s very clear that I’m a guy and present as such. On here though I have been, and still want to, present as a girl. I was leaning more towards bringing that virtual side into my physical side but like above not certain any more, but it’s important you understand that. It’s not like I really do though so let me know if you make sense of it :-p

Probably the biggest difficulty I seem to come across is when it comes to my relationship status. I’m sure you’ve heard it before that people say ‘it’s complicated’ but it really is. IRL I have a gf and that’s a very different side of me. I’m not looking to jeopardise that, instead I’m just looking for the right type of friend that is here to help me understand this side of me so I can work out what’s me and what’s just a drive of passion and desire fuelled by watching too much stuff online and probably too young an age. If you’re that type of friend then I can’t wait to hear from you.

There isn’t really too much about me on here, there is everything you need in my previous posts across multiple attempts including a cheeky photo or two. When you write to me let me know something from a previous post we have in common or you want to know more about.

Otherwise have a wonderful end to 2023 and all the best for 2024. Make kindness your priority and treat others the way they would want to be treated… Jess xx