I am a 37M switch who is seeking a relationship or kinky friends / scene partners. I currently have a partner (Poly/ENM) and we are dating separately.

Ideally I am searching for a woman who identifies as a top but would also of course be open to a switch. I want to find someone that I can build something deeper with. While I want kink to be involved in this relationship, I could envision anything from a LTR, friendship, or more regular scenes / anything in between. I am pretty flexible. I put a lot of work into my relationships and you'll never get less than my absolute best effort. I am just trying to avoid a scenario where we exchange a text every six months and hook-up. That's just not for me but nothing against those who enjoy it! I also love making new friends with similar interests so it would be great having another person to talk to! If you just want to talk kink some time I would love to pick your brain or you mine.

About me: I am 6’3, right around 190 pounds and overall I have a pretty lean build. You will typically find me spending a lot of my free time engaging in some type of physical activity whether that be sports, hiking, or long walks. I try to stay in good shape and hit the gym at least a few times a week but I need to find a way to go more! I currently live a couple of miles south of Boston but spend a lot of my time in Cambridge, Somerville and Boston. I have a car, can travel and also host.

Kink wise - I love bondage (Please tie me to a chair and put me in your closet), impact, edging, humiliation, sensory deprivation, choking / breath play, CBT, biting, tease / denial (long term for myself) I also enjoy domestic service if you need cleaning! I want a partner that I can feel a good power dynamic with. I am not searching for a 24/7 TPE situation but I just like to have it be established who is in control at that moment. I like flirty and fun just as much as I like stern and frosty. I love the power exchange that can come from perceived physical differences having a role in the scene. Submitting to someone a foot shorter than me feels liberating but a woman close to my height also has its own vibe so I would love both. Aftercare is important. I will never play with anyone who doesn't comprehend or isn't willing to learn about boundaries and safe words. I feel like consent should be an automatic in the year 2023 but since it somehow still isn't... consent and communication must always be present and can be revoked at any time. I am hoping to find someone that may have similar interests to my own.

Outside of kink I love gaming whether I am playing, watching, or talking about it. I enjoy having others that I can enjoy this with so if you’re looking for someone to chat / play with then let me know! I will probably be at the rabbit hole board game munches more often now that some of my activities during the week are coming to an end. Board games, online games, mobile games... I am all for it! I do love sports. Hockey, Football, baseball/softball are my top three but not necessarily in that order. I enjoy being active and getting to play as well whenever I have the opportunity. I also enjoy musicals, ballet, and exploring new places. It's nice finding a new restaurant to eat at while exploring the city and I sometimes just walk around aimlessly with no real destination in mind. I generally will jump in to try something new because I am always out to have a good time. I would say that I am someone who enjoys communicating frequently. If you are the type who likes to text or be in more regular communication then I am that type of person. I am not the guy who will go out on a date and text you 3 days later to see how it went. I love getting to know people and taking the time to cultivate a good foundation for a relationship regardless of what it may be.

If you made it this far, are intrigued and would like to chat then send me a message and let's see how well we mesh. I look forward to chatting and getting to meet some new people.