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34 [M4F] Europe/Anywhere - What is love? Baby don't hurt me, no more~
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ckursad is a male age 34 looking for a female
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Bonus points if Jim Carrey popped into your mind as soon as you read the title :)

As stated above, I'm a 34 year old fella, living in Turkey right now (though I have a pretty bizarre sleeping schedule so pretty much any timezone would be fine), I'm a programmer and also a streamer on the side. I'm 1.90m tall (I believe that's about 6'3 if you prefer to measure things with your feet :p) and somewhat on the chubby side, but hopefully not for long. Overall I'd say I'm a rather chill and carefree person, can't say I'm overly ambitious or competitive, I'm more the supportive and nurturing type. INFP-T Mediator personality if you're into that, and if you know about the 5 Languages of Love, mine would be Quality Time and Words of Affirmation foremost. I'll get back to personality traits later on, but let's talk some hobbies first!

As you would probably expect on Reddit, I'm kinda nerdy and a huge gamer (PS4/PS/PC/Switch , with 750 games in Steam library alone so you can get the picture :p) , I love games with a passion :) To me they're nothing short of another form of art, and much more than a simple pastime. I love being a streamer as I have a desire to share these experiences which are special and unique to me, so I guess it is fair to say that it would be a huge plus if you're also a gamer in some way or another.

I play a bit of everything but I don't really enjoy competitive games too much, I tend to avoid most competitive games because of the toxicity, so there's that, but co-op games are right down my alley :) I mostly like RPGs and story driven games, strategy-simulation, survival genres are cool. Huge FF fan, some other favourites would be Pokemon, God of War, Uncharted, The Last of Us, Satisfactory, Fallout, Hades, Portal, RimWorld, Detroit, Death Stranding, RDR, Subnautica, GTAV, Skyrim, Hearthstone, Slay the Spire, Divinity, No Man's Sky, Disco Elysium, Wartales, Fire Emblem, XCOM... okay, you know what, I don't think this list will stop anytime soon so I'll cut it short here, but you get the picture :p But at the end of the day, the games themselves might not matter as much, the point would be to spend time together and have fun so I'm pretty flexible about the whole idea and open for suggestions :)

I also love chess, would absolutely love to play with you if you know how to, can't say I'm *really* good at it but I think I'm quite decent, used to be in the high school chess team and had a few tournament experiences but now I just play online.

Other than that, I like to watch some football(soccer), snooker, reading some fantasy novels or interesting historical facts occasionally, also cinema and music.

Music has a big place in my life, and I have a wide variety in my musical taste, and would love to exchange some songs :) My "liked songs" probably looks like a rollercoaster ride, it can go from opera to metal, then classical music into a western movie theme, anything goes :p (I would totally create playlists for you eventually as I get to know more of your musical taste, if that's something you'd enjoy :) )

Also, I love animals! I don't have a pet right now but I've had various pets throughout my life such as chicks, fishes, birds, rabbits, a tiny turtle briefly, and a cat. And I want a Shiba Inu in the future, I love their chubby cheeks and silly smiles so much :) They doin' me a fascinate.

I'm not a very outgoing person, on most days you can safely place a bet on me being at home. I work from home, and naturally I also stream from home, and if you add the fact that I don't have any friends in the vicinity, there is little reason for me to go outside right now I suppose. I moved to a city where I literally don't know anyone other than family, and it's not easy for me to meet people with shared interests, so I try my luck online instead. But at the end of the day I think it's safe to say I'm a bit of an introvert who would need time to charge between crowded social interactions and such, and I value my peace and solitude at home, and I would love to find someone to be a part of my peace and solitude - part of my 'comfort zone' so to speak, someone that feels like home.

What else.. oh, I'm an atheist. I try to be respectful towards everyone's religious views as long as they don't try to shove them down my throat and convert me or condemn me etc, but I'd probably get along better with someone who's also not so religious, I suppose.

Ok, here come the important bits:

I've had a pretty lonely life and the few relationships I did have in the past always left me disappointed and frankly appalled at how people can be so rude to someone they care/cared about. But I can also say that those experiences made me realize more about who I am and what I want, and taught me to recognize and appreciate the honesty, openness, loyalty, kindness and compassion in people and I value that, and I think those would be the best things I have to offer (especially honesty is very important to me, I need to stress that). I think I'm a very gentle and caring soul who just yearns to find that special person to cherish my time with and share everything. I'm a hopeless romantic that thinks love is a very special thing and pretty much gives everything else their meaning. I want someone to share my day with, laugh together and cry together, someone to laugh at my silly puns and dad jokes ( so hopefully my goofiness could be something you enjoy, not something you 'tolerate') as well as have deep philosophical conversations with me every now and then. Someone who is open to share who they are, and someone I can be comfortable around and can just be myself with and trust completely, without feeling judged. And ideally, I would love to feel that we make an unbreakable team against the world.

Of course, I also know it takes time and effort to reach that level, and I think respect and communication should be the foundation of a good relationship. I always prefer to talk things out and be proactive and mature, rather than burying any issues, so I really appreciate straightforward people. I absolutely hate unnecessary drama and vanity. I'm willing to make the effort to really get to know someone and form a deep connection, so I'd hope for you to also be willing to make an effort and spend some time to get to know me, fair enough, right? I think a conversation needs to flow both ways, if you are the kind of person that only replies with a few words to everything, chances are we won't be compatible. But especially, I must stress this: if you're the kind of person to "ghost" people, please spare us both the trouble and stay away, I find it extremely rude and disrespectful and nothing hurts more me more than that, I hate that this kind of rudeness is so common and accepted as a "norm" in today's society. I wish everyone could just be nicer and more respectful to each other.

Naturally, nobody is perfect and I have my flaws. I think finding the motivation to do things is a bit of a problem for me, at times. You may see it as being lazy, or apathetic, or maybe like a slight depression, but I do struggle to get myself to take action sometimes, and I guess this is something I would really appreciate in a partner if she was able to give me a nudge in the right direction at times, when I need it, but without being too pushy about it I guess heh. I would welcome support, but don't turn it into an ultimatum :P But of course, it would never be your 'responsibility' and I take full credit for my own shortcomings, just saying it as it is.

I have to admit to having a slight fear of abandonment, so reassuring words every now and then can go a really long way with me. Being a romantic and sensitive guy with stupid ideals makes me a bit too naive and vulnerable I guess, because I often don't know how to deal with the rudeness displayed by people, and I'm afraid to think if I have to "toughen up" and become insensitized that would also mean losing touch with who I really am deep beneath, which is not what I want. So I really, genuinely want to be in the company of kind hearted souls, respectful and emphatic. If that sounds like you, then I'd be happy if we get to know each other better.

As one of my favourite movie quotes goes: "The world's a playground. You know that when you are a kid, but somewhere along the way everyone forgets it." So I seek someone who managed to keep that kid alive within :)

I'd be up for a long distance thing as we get to know each other and grow closer over time, and see where it goes, I think it can be a good starting point because it allows us to focus on each other's thoughts and feelings and personality, rather than sex, and if you can love someone for those qualities then it can be a solid and lasting relationship. And if we don't seem to click on that level, we can always be good friends too.

In short, if you're a kind, emphatic, talkative, honest, humorous and witty person I'd like to know you!

PS: I would prefer DMs instead of Reddit's chat feature (and then Discord possibly)

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