Taking some time to reflect, lately I’ve been wondering why I continue posting on R4Rs. Despite interacting with several different individuals for various lengths of time, the results of the exchanges are often eerily similar. The initial weeding through low-effort, non-engaging introductions to transitioning towards simple conversations that, hopefully, evolve into a more complex exchange; allowing both parties to truly be comfortable being who they are.

From this point onward, it’s just a matter of how long the things can last before:

• Someone gets bored.
• The conversations become mundane.
• Life gets in the way.
• Someone messes up.

Then the cycle continues.

Honestly, while the whole process is exasperating, in a way it’s also entertaining. Exposing myself to different ways of thoughts, hearing different accents, observing the various paths people take through life. I enjoy it all. Though I highly doubt that any interaction I find myself in because of this post will lead to something serious and long-term, I’m an openminded person. If there’s a vibe, if there’s a flow, if there’s commonality and reciprocation? I’m 100% invested.

I just ask one thing: let’s skip the games. I ask that you not message me if any of the following is true:

• You’re emotionally unavailable.

• You’re under the age of 25 (a difference more than ten means I can only be your friend).

• You struggle with self-expression.

• A relationship is something that you need rather than want.

• You’re uninterested in voice calls.

• Respecting someone’s time is a foreign concept.

• You have to Google the following words: reciprocation, empathy, consideration and nuance.

• Music isn’t a part of your life.

• You refuse to laugh at my jokes >:(!

While I have patience in abundance, my life is busy, my job is stressful, and my tolerance for nonsense is at an all-time low. I’m looking for someone to aid in easing the burdens and expectations of the world. Someone that’s also open for me doing the same for her. Simple, right?

I’ll end this with a few facts about myself:

• I am single and emotionally available.
• I do not have children.
• I’m teaching myself the piano.
• Forcing myself to become fluent in Spanish.
• Dogs over cats.
• I love reading.
• I love music (Jazz, R&B, Hip-Hop, Classical, …, Country)
• Turn ons: intellect, baking, vibing to music, and someone that laughs at my jokes >:(

Send me a message if any of this aligns with what you’re looking for. Reddit Chats are preferred because the notification for private messages gets pushed to the back of my notification pane for some reason.

You can still send me a private message, but don’t be surprised if takes me longer to respond.