Hi. Hey. Hello.

I’m looking for a 90 day relationship. A real connection that has an expiry date. Not sure if this is even possible but there’s no harm in trying.

I’ve been watching a lot of rom coms lately and something in my heart is fluttering. I guess I could just ask for a girlfriend but the idea of break ups and messy endings still scare me to my core. I’m hypothesizing that going into this with an end date will help me stop ruminating over the end of the relationship.

I’m 27 and currently living in Toronto. I’ve been in one relationship and it didn’t really end well. Since then I’ve stayed away from the dating scene and I’ve been focused on inner work. Therapy, journaling, meditation… stuff like that. It’s been helpful but I feel like I’ve gone too deep. I currently find myself stuck in mental mud. I’m so deep in my head, I’ve almost become scared to move in any direction. Every step forward comes with an infinite amount of follow up choices to make. I get lost in that non existent future and end up staying stuck in that mental mud.

I’ve tried working out, using creative outlets, spending time in nature and hanging out with friends. I’ve seen some benefits but there’s this complex yearning in me that I can’t explore with those things.

I think dating someone will help explore that confusing feeling. I hope it will help me see how much progress I’ve made and allow me identify the areas I still need to improve on. I hope it will be an experience I can fully live through and enjoy.

I’ve been in my head to much and I want to lead with my heart. I want to be less analytical and introspective. I’d like to be more genuine and spontaneous.

Some info about me. 27, 6 feet tall, 195 pounds. Lost a bunch of weight this year and still working on getting more fit. Medium brown skin tone (African lineage), long curly hair, big (some say too big) brown eyes. Pretty good fashion sense and big on hygiene/smelling nice.

Someone of my hobbies and interests include playing/watching sports (basketball is number 1), fashion (it’s almost sale season!!), making art (I’m into pastels right now), watching movies (ask me for my letterbox account) , anime/manga (I’m an undercover weeb), interior design (Japanese and Brazilian aesthetics are my fav right now) and day dreaming about better days (soon hopefully).

I just graduated this year and I’m working in cosmetics right now.

I’m pretty chill (basically a zombie). I like to listen to and uplift people. I try to share as much warmth and gentleness as I can. I’m trying to be as earnest as possible as well. I’m not without flaws. I get sad a lot, I’m also pretty anxious. I have trouble being in the moment sometimes. I could be further ahead in life. I can be too laid back as well.

When it comes to the person I’m looking for, I’m not super focused on looks. Age range 25 . I’m hoping to connect with someone who is warm, kind, intentional and patient. Someone who knows themselves fairly well and can articulate their needs and wants. Nice swag would be cool too.

It’s getting cold and it would be nice to have someone to watch movies with. I’m really into clothes so it would be cool to shop with you too lol (I love browsing women’s clothing shops). I’m honestly open to anything that floats your boat.

When it comes to physical intimacy, I can go with or without it. It would be nice but we don’t have to if that isn’t something you’re comfortable with.

My hope is that I’ll connect with someone who benefits from this kind of arrangement as well. Maybe someone who has a fear of endings too. Or someone who is stuck on someone and wants a distraction from their yearning. Or maybe someone who has been scared to date and wants to try it out (free trail vibes lol).

Again, I know how silly this sounds but I genuinely want to connect with someone and give them my absolute best without worrying about “the end”

If you’re still reading this, feel free to message me. I’d love to chat :) send me your fav movie with your message so I know you read this whole thing.

Take care :)