I had such high hopes for 2023, but they clearly didn't pan out..and so I have this space in my life. I want to get to know someone and care about them. I want to have conversations, and make each other smile, be there when the other needs it... AND all the fun kinky fun stuff.

I am a 57 year old, Married and ENM/Poly, Dom and/or Daddy type person. I am 5' 10", have blue eyes, and brown hair that is about half grey. I know how old I am and I like to own it. I like to describe myself as "lightly disabled", but on the plus side my cane has flames on it! I would also like to think I am more than just those facts.

I am an engineer — I write software and design electronics, I love to read and learn, I watch too much TV, and I love pop culture. I don't game as much as I like, but if you do I want to know everything! I love conversation, and learning about what the people I care about know. I love to write and wrote a novel a while back. I also sometimes write BDSM erotica,

In terms of kink I view myself as a Flexible Dom, I don't have a set style. Instead I want to get to know you, what turns you on, what your fantasies are, your kinks, etc... and then use them against you. I want to work with you to craft the experience you want/need. It can be gentle and mild all the way through rough and stern, and everything in between.

I enjoy a wide variety of kinks including impact play (I am told I give a good spanking), giving orders and tasks, bondage, various forms of sensation play, giving anal, CNC, and honestly too many to name. My hard limits are scat, blood and other fluids. Soft limits will come up as we explore.

Sharing pictures and other ways to turn each other on when we aren't together is important to me (after you feel comfortable), so please be ok with that before you respond. Also I expect to share verification pictures within the first 48 hours, this is non negotiable. Feel free to ask me what that means.

Tell me the name of your favorite song when you reply.

To get a taste of what I can be like, here are a couple of lightly fictionalized versions of things I have done:

• https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMerotica/comments/e51kbp/nice_mdom_ds_anal/
• https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMerotica/comments/eocxlo/90_true_mf_mdom_fsub_huml_cncish