About me:

I'm 34, 5'10, average build, olive skin, hairy chest, bearded (sometimes longer, rarely clean shaven, currently - trimmed), glasses, nerdy, and in my own opinion, quite cute and attractive!

Career/education wise - I'm educated - I have an undergrad and a graduate degree. I started working at a company I've always wanted to join. Admittedly, I joined in a position I'm overqualified for just to get my foot in the door, as my dream job is only one or two promotions away!! It's been great working there though, I really do love it! I've also started my own little companies in the past, just some small ideas I try to work on and develop in my spare time. I can go on and on about career and my ventures into entrepreneurship, and will gladly talk at length about them if this stuff interests you! Have you ever started something/wanted to start something? Tell me about it!

Outside of work and entrepreneurship, I am a big media buff. Movies, music, video games, tv shows, books, I'll consume any media that's good. Being a big nerd, I tend to lean towards fantasy, and sci fi over most other genres, but I seriously love anything good (rom coms are my guilty pleasure). Currently watching: re-watching Curb Your Enthusiasm as I wait for some shows to finish their seasons, and watching some new release movies on my list. Currently reading: just finished Yumi and the Nightmare Painter! It was sooo good, I really enjoyed it. Just started my first Stephen King book, as recommended by a coworker. It's pretty good so far (If It Bleeds). Currently playing: Some League of Legends, some Magic the Gathering Arena, Baldur's Gate 3, and Starfield.

I build my own computers, I'm a big tech nerd, I'm into high fashion, cooking, exercise, hiking, I enjoy travelling, but I am definitely on the introverted side, and as much as going out on the town sounds nice, I usually prefer a quiet night in as I'm a homebody. I just finished a remodel too and my place is almoooooost all done. I just got a dining room table, and may need to redo some other furniture as things are clashing now.

Though I describe myself as an introvert and homebody, I do love to go out and do things, they're just my second choice to staying home and chilling with warm drink (or chilled whisky), soft music, and a fire in the hearth. My friends and I just started going to a weekly bar trivia that's been really fun, though we're getting like 4th place every time (of 20 teams, but still!!). I can be happy in most any setting from a black tie event to just talk a walk in a park or something, though for more formal events I do prefer a big heads up.

I'm fairly open minded and adventurous in the bed-room as well. Lots of stuff I enjoy and love to experiment. I mention this right away because while I think it's important to build up trust and comfort with someone before really diving into this topic, it's also important to me so I don't want to waste anyone's time if this is an incompatibility off the bat. I'd really appreciate it if a future partner be similarly open minded in this area, eagerly curious, or fairly experimental. We don't have to talk about details until we're both comfortable, but knowing very, very roughly where we fall is important to know.

I believe being open minded, in all areas of life, is an amazing quality, so I try to always be open minded and try most anything at least twice before writing it off.

What I'm looking:

You know that question dating apps ask where it has you ask a friend to describe yourself? Well a friend and I once swapped descriptions for each other, and I have to say, his for me is spot on:

"Goal oriented and driven. Endearingly snobby. Board room outside - game hall inside."

It is me really close to a T. A good time to probably mention I am pretty bougie and snobby about things I enjoy/care about, but that's just me really. I like things to be the best they can, and I strive for the absolute best things and experiences in life. It's all about how I like to experience life, and I don't really care or shame others about how they want to live their life or experience things. That being said, I am not vain or shallow about any of this, it's just a choice for excellence for myself.

To that end, I've had a hard time finding a well educated, smart, successful woman, who is fun and easy going, leaning more towards type A, and also enjoys the finer things in life and seeks that sort of lifestyle. I've definitely lived very low in my life, and a few times very high, but usually my experiences are solidly in the middle. I am personally pushing myself for more, and to live a bigger life, and I want a partner that is very ambitious and wants those goals for herself (and her future partner) as well. Being a nerd isn't required but a huge bonus.

Side note, I'm always baffled to hear about really high achieving women that have a hard time dating because of insecurities of other guys, or some weird attempt to hold on to really outdated social norms. Those women sound so dreamy to someone like me!

I'm looking for something serious, and long term, though I don't like to put tons of pressure on things and enjoy a natural progression, so I prefer to move at a pace we're both comfortable with (however fast or slow that may be) - I really just want to get to know each other. That being said, if I'm into someone, I love to chat with them (I'm a big texter), and really just enjoy as much of their company as I can get. We may all be gone tomorrow, so why not spend today with someone that gives you butterflies, right?

Physically, I lean very heavily towards pale women, and am generally not attracted to larger body types. No need to waste anyone's time in this regard, so just laying it out there.

Age wise, I'd like kids to be on the table until/unless we decide against them, so I'd prefer to date someone younger than myself.

The reason I'm posting to reddit is that, it's been very hard to find the kind of woman I think I can truly build something serious and long lasting with. I've been dating here and there over the past couple of years, and have yet to encounter someone who is good for me, and I, good for her.

In terms of distance, I prefer someone near me or someone already moving nearby (Washington, DC area), within a few months.

I'd love to say more, but this is already long enough! This should give you an idea of the kind of guy I am and what I'm looking for. I think about things a lot, I put a lot of effort into my work, my leisures, and my relationships. So, want to be part of a type A power couple in the streets, bites and bruises in the sheets with me?

Happy to chat on most any platform you prefer! Though I have a preference for discord. Thanks for reading this all, it means a lot! I hope to hear from you~~

PS - if this wasn't long enough, I also made a "Date-Me-Doc" that's even longer, haha. Message me and I can send you the link if interested in reading even more about lil' ol' me!