This is gonna be somewhat long, so buckle up! I’m naturally a paragraphs person, and if a two-page essay about me feels like too much, you probably aren’t going to enjoy me a lot either.

About me: I’m single, polyam, bi-romantic demi/ace from Ukraine looking for a long-term relationship. I know it’s not something you wave a wand and make happen—and I personally hate to rush things, but I ask anyone replying to this post to be at least open to that. The perfect scenario would be something starting as friendship and progressing into a romantic partnership.

I’m okay with an LDR as long as it’s manageable to meet in person and eventually close the gap when it feels right. I don’t fall in love often, and I hope it’s out there for me, beautiful, vulnerable, and terrifying at times.

On asexuality, since it tends to raise questions (rightfully so): I don’t usually experience sexual attraction towards people, especially strangers, but I’m somewhere between sex-neutral and sex-favourable on the ace spectrum. This means sex can be cool and fun if the connection is there, although definitely not the key element in a relationship for me.

Something we can bond over:

• Games. I’ve recently finished modding Morrowind into something more fast and stable yet vanilla-friendly, and god it still feels great! I love story-rich and text-based tittles as much as silly little games with unusual mechanics. Some of the games I’ve recently enjoyed: Roadwarden, Pentiment, Inscryption, Kingdom New Lands/Two Crowns, Stardew Valley, 80 Days, Astrologaster, Stacklands. In a love-hate relationship with the Sims series, mostly hating on Sims 4 and getting back to Sims 2 over and over again.

• Neurodivergency. I’ve been recently diagnosed with autism and strongly suspecting an accompanying ADHD. Most of my irl-friends are also autistic, and I noticed that I click with ND folks way more often.

• Books. I’ve read 50 books last year but don’t really have a favourite author or genre. It’s been more of an experiment to read as I used to as a teen, going blindly based on random recommendations or picking a book with a cool looking cover. I love memoirs, non-fiction that dives into some very specific topic, and sci-fi.

• Languages. I speak Ukrainian, Russian, Spanish, obviously English, and just started learning German. Random linguistics/translation/etymology facts fascinate me, and if I happen to have a crush on you, I’ll probably start frantically learning your language way too soon.

Some more interests: true crime, Dropout shows, musicals, houseplants, dogs.

About you: when it comes to attraction, I’m more often driven to soft-masculinity regardless of gender. Height/weight doesn’t matter, but I’d prefer if you date solo (not as a pre-existing couple looking for a third) and have no kids—I’m child-free and don’t want to date parents either.

Dealbreakers: people who say they are “drama-free” and “don’t take themselves too seriously”. Someone who’s not interested in politics or holds conservative beliefs; has an extremely NSFW profile; is a poor communicator and generally has a hard time being open and vulnerable. I’m looking for people not way too older or younger than me, somewhere in the 25-35 yo window.

Please introduce yourself with something more than “hi” and let me know why you felt driven to reach out. If it looks like you just need a woman-shaped warm body, you disregarded some parts of the post, your very first message is super low-effort or makes me uncomfortable, I’m not going to reply. Seriously, I don’t need 100 messages in my inbox, I’m looking to connect with people who (hopefully) felt genuinely excited to know me.

There’s a picture of me attached to another post in my profile—it would be great if you share yours, too. And that’s all, thank you for reading!