Hi, I've been reading for a while, I decided it was time to try posting. I always strive for honesty and I like writing, so walls of text coming, hopefully you'll appreciate how upfront I am with information. People are busy and talking to people is a surprisingly time consuming endeavor, I think being verbose could just save us both a lot of time. Anyway here goes:

I'm a software engineer living in Montreal, Canada. I work from home. I'm 5'11, 160lbs, white, long brown hair, brown eyes, I speak French and English. I'd post a picture but I'm into at least putting a minimal effort into data privacy so let's do that through DM instead. I've had one 12 years long relationship and a few shorter relationships, I don't have kids, I don't have pets and I've never been married. I own a condo in a gentrified neighbourhood, my family is full of chill and lovely people, I love my friends, my career is going well and I'm comfortable.

I have a small home gym I use a couple time a week when I have the motivation, my goals are mostly about weight and cardio not about muscle. I'm not much into sports and I'm a homebody, definitely more of an indoor nerd type. I'm one of those introvert/extrovert people who love solitude and prefer smaller gathering but will take command of a room and love to make everyone laugh.

I'm usually in a good mood, although I do have my moments of existential dread. I'm not the best at maintaining friendships but I've been improving. I love to laugh, I don't take myself very seriously and love to joke around but I know when to be serious as well. I love the simplicity of the golden rule, do not do to others what you don't want to be done to you, I do my best to live by it. I value empathy in others and this is the quality I desire the most in a significant other. I think quite a few of us lack the empathy to be good human beings, at least most of the time. So in a way I love everyone and wish them all the best but in another way I think a lot of people are self-centred and ignorant and I don't want to associate myself to people as much. It feels like as a society we constantly have to put so much effort into maintaining a minimum level of human decency in order to function, I find it very tiresome at times.

I have a few hobbies. I'm into computers quite a bit so I have a few PCs at home in an extensive local network, the good news is that I come with free tech support and a s-tier media library :) I also like to do software development for myself sometimes. I play video games, nowadays I don't play online as much now but I used to spend a lot of time on the following online games: Diablo franchise, Starcraft/Broodwar, Counter-Strike, WoW, Heroes of the Storm. I tend to prefer more single-player oriented games now like the Fallout franchise or games like FTL, Darkest Dungeon, Civ5 but I also do like to play some retro games, usually platformers or RPGs. I never had a significant other gamer if it happens to be one of your interest I'd be happy to play whatever, I think it could be a fun way to spend time together. I'm into plants and gardening, I have a roof terrace where I maintain a small vegetable garden in the summer and I'm branching out into miniature indoor greenhouse, herb garden and many houseplants. I love it. I'm also into books and graphic novels, I have a huge home library and I believe post-brunch reading is a divine activity. I love TV shows and movies, I'm decent at trivia, I try to write sometimes but it often feels a bit pointless so I never finish writing anything.

I'm looking for love, the real thing, the forever. I think I had it for a while, it was pretty great, I'd like to find that again :) I'd like to move out of the big city at some point and buy a house in a smaller city where we can get a good mix of service and houses that are still within buying range. I'd like to have a huge garden, a dog and 1-2 kids. This feel stereotypical but that's really what I want. There was a comment posted on a thread in reddit yesterday that went basically: "My gf is a homebody too so we mostly garden and play with the kids, it's a quiet and peaceful life". This is what I want, hopefully I can find someone with the same vision. My life right now is more urban and I appreciate that part of life as well, I live in a gorgeous walkable neighborhood and it's honestly very great, if it wasn't for the need of space for the kids I'd be happy to stay where I am. I think it could be a very good environment to get to know one another :) Let me describe you a random happy Saturday and hopefully you'll vibe with it:

• We wake up, snuggle for a bit then we throw some clothes on to go to brunch
• We go brunch at one our favorite place, because we go often enough to have favorite brunch places hahaha
• We lazily browse used bookstores, or thrift shops or whatever hobby-related stores we share a common interest in for a while, maybe run some errands?
• We go back home, spend the afternoon cuddling, chatting or doing our own thing, I'm likely to spend time reading on the couch what I brought back from the used bookstores, go play a game or make some plans for my next home project
• We have dinner at home, home cooked, maybe you cooked, maybe I did, maybe we both did? Doesn't need to be complicated :)
• We spend the evening cuddling on the couch watching stuff together, maybe a bit of gaming if that's what you are into.

I'm left leaning, I think unregulated capitalism is unsustainable. I want people to be happy especially if their happiness does not rob anyone of anything. I want a system that is just and that value protecting its most vulnerable members. I think corruption should be punished proportionally to the number of victims it creates. I'm an atheist, I can understand the desire to believe in something greater but you lose me immediately trying to put a name and rules on that something, then it seems to start to be more about power and control.

Alright change of pace, Let's talk expectations and deal breakers:

• You need to want to have kids, and not already have them
• I want a monogamous relationship, I also expect you to be sex positive
• I need someone grounded in reality, ideally you don't hold firm beliefs for which you have no evidence
• Mental health should be okay, not looking for perfection here but you need to be stable and in control. I don't mean that to be offensive, but I came out of a relationship where this was an issue and I feel like I gave a lot and I need a break on that front
• Don't really care about your age except for the kids thing, and I want time to get to know you enough before making the commitment to have kids with you (with is IMO such a bigger commitment than marriage). Age doesn't matter as much as having your shit together. I'm 36, stability is sexy, knowing what you want is also very sexy.
• I'm more attracted to slim/average bodies, it also tends to make the sex better. I don't expect perfection because I am not perfect myself, and some extra fat is all good for me. If you are on an active weight loss journey I welcome you, I went through this path before myself. But I'd like to be with someone who would like to make a commitment to try to stay to a somewhat healthy weight together. That way we can maximize our chances to see our kids grows well into adulthood :)
• Ideally you have a career/job, but I have some flexibility on this.

I don't mind where you live, as long as you are open to the idea of moving if we click and you are not local. I think people are people, wherever they come from, it's a big planet and I always felt like borders and ethnicity ultimately don't really matter. I'd also like that we don't stay LDR for too long.

Alright so that was me. Hopefully what I wrote will resonate with someone out there :) Have a nice day.