TL;DR: strapping farmer seeks intelligent, kind, creative partner for homesteading, community-building, and enjoying life on this pale blue dot.

Hello there! I'm looking for a partner for what will doubtless be the the craziest thing I ever do: my goal in life is to get a piece of land, build a home, and homestead off the grid with as little fossil fuel use as possible. When I dream about my future it involves hand tools, donkey carts, and composting toilets. Over the long haul, I would want my partner to fit into this life in either of the following ways:

• As a full partner in homesteading, working with me to produce a livelihood from the land and contribute our gifts to our community, OR

• As my anchor to contemporary society, working a more normal job and probably owning a real vehicle. Here I would be a homemaker on (metaphorical) steroids, providing food and hawking produce in addition to keeping house.

If either of those options sound like a great time to you, please read on!

About Me

I am a Luddite who makes a hobby of niche computing, a dreamer with an analytical bent, a blue-collar guy who rejected his white-collar upbringing. I lived a few different lives before settling on "farmer", but I feel now, for the first time, that I've found my calling. I spent seven months living off-grid in the rainforest, and am now apprenticing on an organic vegetable farm in a more temperate climate. I plan to work and learn on other folks' farms for a few more years to build up the resources and experience I will need to make my own farmstead a reality.

I'm a reserved and reflective kind of fellow, but I will talk enthusiastically about a wide variety of subjects. I love the outdoors deeply, and value living in a beautiful place. I have a strong appreciation for both arts and handcrafts, and am an amateur in a broad range of hobbies and disciplines. Right now I've been doing a lot of baking and fermenting, and not quite enough of playing my banjo. When I find the time, I am a voracious reader, particularly of nonfiction and philosophy. I don't keep up much with television, anime, or video games anymore, though I was quite involved with those as a younger person (read: totally a recovering weeb). I traveled widely as a kid, but am now trying to figure out where to settle and put down roots; Virginia is leading the pack right now, but I am open to suggestion here.

Humor-wise, my tendency is to catch you off-guard with a funny face, make a terrible pun, or pull out the dustiest, most ancient reference for the situation. I laugh easily myself and love dry, sharp humor.

Physically, I'm 6'3" and was about 240 lbs at last check. I'm no swimsuit model, but have broad shoulders, strong legs, and a modest belly--a sort of "farmer fit" body, or on the trimmer side of dadbod. I'm on the browner side of white, and wear a mustache and glasses. My hairline gave up on me pretty early, so I'm usually bald or buzzed up top. I used to wear a beard, and may go back to that if my inner caveman gets insistent enough. I have rather serious body hair that is not going anywhere, as well. Basically I'm the answer to all of your lumberjack fantasies. Here are a few pictures of me.

When it comes to relationships, I tend to be the nurturing type. If you need someone who will demand a lot of you and constantly push you, I'm not it. If you need a supportive rock who will give you the honest truth and will challenge you when it's the right thing to do, I might just be your huckleberry. Once I am comfortable with a partner, I become very cuddly and physically affectionate.

I prioritize open communication, shared values, and mutual respect in close relationships. I think great relationships are made, not found, and that love is more of a verb that it is a noun. There has to be a baseline level of chemistry on at a least a few levels, of course, but I don't expect or need to go head-over-heels rainbow-drinking ga-ga over you in order for things to work. That stuff is really nice and feels amazing, but it goes away over time. Much better, in my book, to build something great together, and all the rest is icing on the cake.

My ideal relationship style is monogam-ish; that is, a strong and committed partnership that is not totally exclusive. I have practiced polyamory in the past, and think it generally a sound idea, but I also have a deep need for the sort of profound intimacy and commitment that comes with a primary nesting partner. I am not entirely opposed to monogamy, particularly if my partner and I are co-homesteading, but that sort of totalizing exclusivity is a hard sell for me.

I am open to having children, but only once I am completely confident in both the relationship and our logistical situation. Adopting and just not having kids at all are both on the table for me.

About You

I am looking for someone who would be an enthusiastic partner in the sort of life I've outlined above. I tend to be attracted to women who are confident, fairly high-energy, and who have a serious zest for life. I have a pretty even keel, and can be a good balance for someone a little more on the wild side. That said, I have a good track record of partnering with more introverted women, so those are by no means requirements.

I do want my potential partner to have an appreciation for the outdoors, and a love of some sorts of arts, crafts, or culture. I would like for my partner to be reasonably fit--again, I'm no model and don't expect you to be, but being in decent shape is a big plus for me. Another big plus is the ability to talk at some length about philosophical, social, spiritual, or political ideas.

I'm drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin. My past partners have often had little time for makeup, leg-shaving, and the like. So long as you're reasonably fit and healthy, your body type matters little to me--hair type/color, the size of your boobs/butt, the sharpness/softness of your features are not categorically important to me.

I have a few dealbreakers. If you identify as a Republican or (especially) a Trump supporter, I'm out. I won't close the door entirely on other flavors of (non-fascist) conservatism, but we will get along best if you are somewhere on the left side of the spectrum. If you're a tankie, though, that probably won't work too well either.

Unfortunately I'm painfully straight, so I'm only looking for cis women, though any sexual orientation is fine.

Please be between 23 and 37 years of age. All heights and races are welcome.

In Conclusion

Your potential straw-hat-wearing furry-faced homemaker stud is just a reddit DM away. Let's get to know each other! Please use messages instead of the chat feature. Hope to hear from you soon ^_^

Thank you for reading, and if you pass on this one, happy hunting out there =)