Hi everyone - I'm looking for someone to be weird with me. Where we can be ourselves and it doesn't matter if other people don't get that. I have friendships like this and am looking for this kind of connection in a romantic relationship.

I'm neither bored nor short of friends - I'm taking my time and looking for the right person. I am looking for people who are open to something long-term and who similarly value friendship as the core of a romantic/sexual relationship. At the same time, I'm pretty non-traditional.

I'm currently in NC, but will be moving back to WA in the near future. I'm open to starting apart, but I'm not looking for long-term distance situations.

My mental health is pretty good these days. I have a lot of strong feelings, but I don't hold my partner and/or friends responsible for dealing with them. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I'm in the process of still figuring that out - turns out it affects a lot. But I'm passionate about building a life where I don't feel wrong all the time. It's important that someone I'm with is also working on their own happiness and growth. I often really click with other spicy-brained people.

I am progressive and value kindness and altruism. I'm pretty mellow, but also a bit spontaneous. My interests are relatively nerdy. I have a good and quirky/witty sense of humor. I like to talk a lot, and bounce around from topic to topic pretty easily. I want to hear about the things you love. We don't have to love the same things. However, I have a bit of a hard time with sports and anime - so if you're really into those things, it might be hard.

I'm fat and sexy and I want a partner who finds me sexy - not just tolerates my body. If you don't find fat women sexy, I'm not the one for you.

I am interested in a variety of physical features in people. I tend to be attracted to adorkable and a little shy. I like unique features rather than "conventionally attractive." Attraction is very case-by-case for me. I am interested in people of every gender and tend to prefer people who are a bit gender non-conformist. I am only interested in talking to people between the ages of 30-45.

I have a high libido and my sexual connection with a partner is very important. I am very caring and giving and am interested in finding someone with that same giving/pleasing energy, and am also interested in someone who is comfortable with their sexuality and is interested in exploration.

Sex is not a basis for a compatible relationship alone though. Talking about sex and sexual compatibility is normal and expected, but sexting is weird for me until I know someone (usually after I meet them in person). To be compatible with me, someone needs to be interested in ALL of me. My sexuality is only one part of that, even though it's an important part.

I talk a lot and need someone who is interested in that, will talk back/share information about themselves, and who I can have an active/engaged relationship with. I do not expect constant communication from someone, nor do I worry about things like "double texting" and all these "rules" that people have. I get excited about new connections, but value deep, ongoing relationships. I'm also an experienced adult who knows that's only one tiny part of what a relationship is/will be. Send me a billion messages some days, send me none others, it's cool. So will I. I would eventually want to move to discord.

When you reply, please tell me about yourself and why you think that we might be a good fit. I understand this can be difficult, but this is a compatibility issue for me, and I won't reply if you don't seem to be putting a genuine effort in. You can always save my post and reply later when you're in the right mood to give it an honest try.

Thanks for making it to the end. I take my time in replying to people because I get overwhelmed and confused if I'm trying to talk to more than one person at a time. I like to really get to know people, and I will reply to anyone who puts in a genuine effort. Feel free to message if you see this, regardless of how long it's been since I posted.

Good luck out there finding what you look for. I wish you the best in your search even if your future companion isn't me. 😊