I'm sick of being called a "unicorn hunter" and our relationship invalidated on r/polyamory - just because we're in a triad.

And what do I mean by we? I mean me, our gf, and our bf. We started as a dyad, me and my gf, nearly eight years ago. We met our bf last December at Midwest furfest - I let him room with us because I really loved his vibe. And y'know? We both loved his vibe irl that we ended up moving in together. It wasn't until a couple months later that we became a triad. But here's the shocker: HE ASKED US! Well, technically he said, "we might as well be in a relationship at this point" and we shook hands on it. But still. HE INITIATED. Not us. And we sat down together, discussed our boundaries for the relationship, and fully understood there will be no double standards / privileges / anything of the sort for one person and not the other. There is NOTHING nobody didn't agree or didn't consent to. And there hasn't been. Our relationship - the three of us - has been about balance, honesty, and communication from the very beginning.

And y'know what? We're fucking happy. We love and support eachother. We take care of eachother. We spend time together, the three of us, or the two of us. We've been living together for well over a year, the three of us. We have a good life together.

I'm sick of being treated - in the poly space of all places - like what we have is somehow "wrong". We sure as hell don't have HALF the drama I see posted on that sub, that's for sure. And that's saying something, given they both have depression, and the bf has mental health challenges that'd scare the shit out of a lot of people, poly AND monogamous.

The only "unicorn" here is apparently the mythical, successful, closed polyfidelity triad we have. Apparently that's fucking rare. But here we are. Get used to it.