I'm so sick of seeing all trans and non-binary pregnancies and families in media and on my personal feed almost exclusively based around a tragic narrative. Can we start some kind of movement to show we are more than perpetual victims? No, not toxic positivity. But I'm trans, non-binary, the sole income and insurance provider, an immigrant, have various mental ilnesses and I'm working a full time job at 33 weeks under late stage capitalism so that my kid can have the BEST possible start in life. Not proud of my 'work ethic' but as willing and capable if not more so than the cis of making sacrifices for my kid. I am sorry that society fails us as a demographic but we shouldn't fail ourselves also. I want to see more success stories! Coming out as trans IMPROVED my life! But when I tell the cis, their faces drop because of this narrative of misery and victimhood and pity. So so sick of it.

Honestly it's giving me dysphoria about being trans. I want to go back to being cis so I can just not be part of this freaking perpetually marginalized group and I can be part of a community with goals and success stories. I feel doomed to a life of crowdfunding and reliance on others when I look around at my peers and it is just so endemic and just so invasive.

Remember when coming out as yourself was a CELEBRATION? Not a mere foray into identity politics and marginalization?

transandsuccessful #transandthriving #thrivingqueerfamilies #notavictim #IDontCareAboutTheHashtagJustLessPityAndTragedyPlease