As a submissive brat, I wanted to share my perspective on and experience with the more intense side of BDSM. While I do not have any sexual BDSM experience (yet), I do have casual/platonic experience with it and have been involved in several breaking scenes.

In the breaking scenes my friend and I do, she continues the impact play and/or cold/psychological play until I can't take it any longer and I safe word. To be clear, these types of scenes are set up in advance so we both know they are coming and we both consent to them. The only unknown for me is what she will be doing and how long I'll last.

These scenes, as infrequent and spaced out as they may be, mean a lot to me. They began as a way to "reset" my brat so to speak. Because after so long, my bratting builds up until I just can't control it anymore. But the more experience we got with these scenes, the closer I felt with my friend. I realized that I had to completely trust her, and have constant, clear communication before, during, and after to keep us both safe (I use that term loosely, it is BDSM after all).

I guess what I'm trying to say is, I've found that I couldn't easily do something as extreme as a breaking scene, breath play, knife play, and other forms of edge play with just anyone, even if I know them. I can do these things with my friend because we have earned each other's trust, and because I know she will be there after the safe word to help pick up the pieces and put me back together again. She will hold me in her arms as I cry, she will rub lotion on my irritated flesh, she will wrap me in a warm blanket if needed... she will be there. And that is the most comforting feeling in the world.