If you respond, I'd like to know if you have any queer friends and whether you would be comfortable saying what you're suggesting I say to that friend/friends.

Me: straight male, longtime ally of queer folk, most of my friends are women and I think a majority of them are queer but I'd have to take a tally

I have a group of about six friends. They consider themselves queer. They are lovely people, generally, but for one thing: they are very comfortable stereotyping straight men in my presence. They are all mid 30s and I'm over 50. Yeah, that's weird I guess. I do have friends my own age, they just like to stay home.

Anyway, there have been several instances where straight men are stereotyped:

• there is a little scandal involving Andrew Huberman where one person in the friend group said that he's a jerk or something like that. But from what I can see the scandal is very much a he said / she said and it doesn't have anything to do with anything other than maybe he was a jerk to somebody he was dating, according to the person that he was dating. But there was a clear bias against him in the conversation and I felt that the reason behind it was that he is a straight man and therefore he's probably the one in the wrong.

• I have literally heard "your gender is terrible, straight men suck". Like yeah, I get that but my gender is also numerous, so there will be some bad apples.

• there have been other instances where I've heard things like "well straight men are not to be trusted"

I don't stereotype anybody. Except maybe billionaires as a joke but then there's Warren Buffett who's actually a decent guy. I think that composition fallacies are problematic no matter who the target of the fallacy is. But it seems like people are pretty comfortable stereotyping straight men. My mother liked to make sexist jokes about men when I was growing up and I hated it.

But, I feel like in the current progressive culture as a straight man I am going to get a lot of pushback if I push back on this stereotyping. Because straight men are the dominant culture in America and it's been that way for a long time. And yes, for sure, straight men have done a lot of damage in the world. But that's not an excuse for stereotyping straight men in my presence.

So what would you say to these people?