29-year-old cisgender guy here!

I've considered myself straight for as long as I can remember, but over the years, I have come to an understanding that this label is not quite as *fixed* as I thought.

As it currently stands, I feel confident that I feel various levels of sexual and romantic attraction towards:

• Cis women that are 'futch' (who more than often they tend to be queer)

• Transfemmes & Transmascs

• NB & androgynous people

I've dated or at the very least have been intimate with people who've fallen into one of the identities I've listed above and enjoyed all my experiences. No interest in cis men (despite liking penises and looking at cis-masc bodies in certain contexts).

The ultimate question that I come to is whether I could actually claim queerness (however little I can) or not. I feel a bit like an outsider to the community as a whole and that making any stake in a queer identity may seem disingenuous.

The few queer friends I've privately confided with about this said they think I fall in the spectrum of bi/pan/polysexual. But I still feel some twinge of conflict of existing as someone whose potential queerness is too 'quiet' compared to people who are more 'full-fledged' with their identity in appearance and expression.

Maybe this post is redundant to you, dear reader. Am I being too hard on myself?