So to preface this, I'm ace. I don't like sex, for me it's kinda just.... boring. And a bit icky. But it's weird, because I also like foreplay a lot. I like kink. I wanna be tied up and gagged while someone gropes my body, stuff like that. Just not actual sex or anything.

It just kinda sucks. I love petplay. I love being treated like a little bunny. But it just feels so alienating to say "sex and stuff is a hard no". I know a large majority of the community is sexual, and that's totally fine! I'm genuinely happy for y'all! But... it makes me feel like I don't belong. I mean, my animal of choice is a bunny and I don't like sex. It gives people the wrong idea and they just focus on the "breeding owo" part and not the "small and cuddly and eating soft food and zoomies" part that I like.

And even if I find someone that's fine with no sex, it's like... I dunno, I still want kink play and stuff. And it feels bad, like I'm trying to have my cake and eat it too. It feels like I'm using others for my pleasure and ignoring theirs.

In conclusion... I don't know where I was going with this. I just wanted to vent about not feeling like I belong in either nsfw or sfw communities for petplay.