My partner (f47) got pregnant at 14, termination and then was subsequently raped by the same guy ( a bit older ) . She kept the child and tried to break it off with him, he assaulted her and stalked her for years and they come from a long.line of 'bad blood' . The father had access to the child and that child was assaulted sexually - this is all before my partner was 18.

Fast forward and she is living a life to e vy, then her father passed away and her partner ( father of their 2 son ) was caught cheating at the same period of her dather passing.

Since the split with the boys dad her life has spiraled - I came into her life just after split.

My partner ( to me ) is showing aspects of CPTSD, sexual shame ( or love life is passionate but there is no discussion what so ever of sex -'problems or otherwise ) and body shame ( she has put alot of weight on ) And at times when she is flight or fight her conversation goes way off task and ends up back at the issues of age 14 .

We can discuss the trauma and she can see how the time line of abuse etc can influence her life today .... but it ends there .

I am lost at what yo do - we have money to help with trauma and her weight but she talks as if this is all she is meant to be and nothing can change....

Sorry for long story but due to the above it looks as if she is canceling a dream holiday over seas and I will be going alone.

How do you help get some over the hurdle to even want to explore life and move on ?