Hi, as a 26 year old male with autism and BPD, I don’t really have any friends in person here in London. I often feel like I just don’t belong in this world. But, I’ve always preferred the company of women rather than men, generally speaking, and I’ve had many online female friends through my history. Not that I’m opposed to male friends, but this is just the theme in my life.

I’d say my female friends are different in particular for several reasons:

• Bullied by other women for not being ‘womanly’ enough.
• Hobbies are quite unconventional for women to have.
• Neurodivergence, mainly ADHD.
• Tended to be friends with other men instead of women.
• Weird outlooks on life.
• LGBTQ and/or ethical non-monogamous.

I also can relate with a few of these points, too. I’m a guy that’s generally very emotionally sensitive, and coupled with my neurodivergence, I get along with these very specific women well. I feel it’s important emphasising these specific women, because I’m not attracted to most other kinds of women to even befriend, because of mainly intellectual incompatibilities.

Plus I feel my emotional vulnerability isn’t appreciated by most…I can’t help but be this way, because again, my neurodivergence, but I understand the right people will adore who I am, and I can’t please everyone. Yet my female friends do, and it’s why I love and care about every single one of them. They’re each unique in their own ways and they’re all worthy of being appreciated individually.

…I apologise for rambling. I’m not sure what the point of this post is, but I wonder if anyone else can relate? And also relating to how it seems at odds with what Muslims typically think about how men and women can’t be platonic friends? Which I think is bs anyway lol