I really enjoy military scifi and after reading expeditionary force I'm looking for some more.

However after reading through a few now I have to say, expeditionary force had a little bit of the alpha male bs but nothing compared to the majority.

I get that it's leaning into military culture but I find its overdone in most of the books to the point of distracting as well as making me not like the main character when they push the whole alpha male bordering on toxic masculinity.

Things like:. The main character wanting to punch someone he meets because their hair is a few inches longer than a buzz cut....
whenever anyone offers them food that's not meat they will be disgusted..
Same thing with hard drinks. Comments about women - just sexism in general.

Does anyone know of any military scifi or similar where the main character is not like this.. or at least it's kept to a minimal and reasonable level like exofo?