Let's be honest: on average men have a way higher libido than women. There's nothing wrong with that, biologically it's completely logical. Men often need to release themself to prevent frustration and arousal from building up. The problem we created through internet porn however is that masturbation has become the easiest solution and that many men spend way too much time on it which isn't healthy.

In a healthy relationship you solve that need together, as a shared responsibility. Women depend on men for some things and men depend on women for other things, this is one of those things. Then it helps though if a man doesn't need forever since that would be a burden. I don't mind helping him out as long as he's relatively quick about it. Why should I see it as a bad thing if he's faster, if it's easier and it needs less work from me? I don't mean this in a bad way but in a relationship sex can sometimes be a "have to do"-activity that works better if it's over relatively quickly. It's easier to get yourself ready for that way when you're not that much in the mood yourself.

I get how that would be different for a passionate one-night-stand but it's odd that we've made that into the standard instead of relationship sex, in which quickness is appreciated more than most men think. Men are naturally quick (because of the biological and evolutionary benefits) and it's strange that we've made that into a negative thing.