As the original creator (the carpenter) I'm very happy to see that this sub is back. Sorry for the deletion, I had two moderators in place and when I had to delete my account (since I couldn't chat and couldn't post anything) I thought the subreddit was in safe hands but apparently not as they had resigned without me knowing (there wasn't a lot of moderation needed so we didn't have contact that often).

Maybe I can give my perspective on premature ejaculation since that was why I created this sub in the first place: I never saw guys orgasming quick as something negative. It's fun when it happens, it's hot most of the time and it can be convenient when it's consistent. I'd like to offer my perspective why I am very positive about premature ejaculations.

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It's fun and hot: when a guy is quick it makes me feel sexy. And the opposite too: when a guy is slow it can make me feel insecure. I'd like to think that a guy that orgasms easily is very aroused and when he does that in front of me, that it's because of me that he is so aroused. It makes me proud of myself and it makes me feel better about my body. I think that's the same for guys who make girls orgasm quickly and I don't see how that should be different the other way around (except that guys are usually easier anyway).

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Convenience: It's a lot easier to fit an intimate session in a busy schedule when you know it can be over quickly. It's easier to incorporate ten quickies in your schedule than one long session and it makes spontaneous sex a lot more practical. In general it means that if I'm not in the mood or don't have a lot of time, I can still do it. Most women have a more diverse libido in which there are periods with either high or low libido, I'm not different in that regard. When you know it's quick it's a lot easier to have some maintenance sex as you can get yourself over that mental bump more easily. When you are in the mood more, you can still have the longer session, either with incorporating other elements of cuddling and foreplay or a second round. In my experience quicker guys are usually also quicker in going for another one if needed. I find it much more satisfying to have two quick rounds than one slow one. It also helps that if I want something myself he puts a lot more energy and effort in me than the other way around and I don't hate that. It may not be fair but to be honest, I like that a bit. And let's be frank, biological it's natural for guys not to take so long to orgasm. It would have been an evolutionary advantage.

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Even before I developed the kink I appreciated a quick guy purely for selfish reasons. I don't orgasm from penetrative sex and still like getting licked. If a guy is done fairly quick and doesn't mind giving me an orgasm after or before, I don't really see why I should complain about that. It makes me feel attractive and he can put himself on getting me there faster than usual, why would that be a bad thing? I have had vaginismus for a while and because of that PIV wasn't an option for me for a while. Now it's something that I can handle but only if it doesn't take ages. If I go on for longer I feel a pressure that gets bigger and bigger and eventually forces me to stop. I don't want to wait for that, I like sex to end with a creampie so if a guy ejaculates within a few minutes I appreciate that.

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My vaginismus also made it more important for me to feel in control about the situation in regards to sex and everything around that. That developed into me getting a bit more dominant and the premature thing makes me feel powerful. It automatically makes me feel like I'm in control over him, that I have more control over my orgasm than him and therefore over the situation as a whole. I encourage quickness with all guys I play with.

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I think I'm not the only woman feeling this way. Maybe I'm a bit more extreme but I know of several friends who feel a similar way for similar reasons (arousal and convenience). It seems to be taboo for a woman to like it so I think it's a lot more common than most guys (or women) think. Close to every girl thinks it's hot when it happens incidentally but I think even if it's a regular thing most women appreciate it rather than hate it. For most it's just not something to be really bothered by. But I really like it, and I hope you understand now why I do.